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Yep! It's forever. Not something to be taken lightly (as said in ceremonies I have witnessed.) It's really huge if you seriously think about it.(which I hope everyone does,LOL) I feel the same way about kids. LOL
I certainly can't wait to marry my SO and have kids though.
It's not just you to worry about anymore. You have to another person to consider.
It's HUGE!
P.S. I thought this was an engagement post and I was gonna be the first congrats.LOL
lol yeppers!! i had a dream the night before last that M proposed (it had to be a bit in the future because i had long hair or a longer ponytail) and he asked and i woke up and was freaking out a bit.. .it was quite strange but satisfying..
We don't argue very often (as in we've had maybe a half dozen arguments since we started dating, over two years ago), but every time we disagree about anything, it hits me. And I have this sense of "well, it's time to either work this out or decide it's something I'm willing to live with, since I'm stuck with him." :)
@ms herring.... totally!! m and i have argued a bunch this week, this is VERY RARE for us... but it's like is this what i want for the rest of my life and i think most definitely because arguing with this meathead is better than being with anyone else. i adore him.
@crebre80 - Totally :) And actually, some of our arguments have been about wedding planning (pathetically). And they always devolve into me shouting "Fine! Then you just plan the damn thing!" rather than "Let's just call it off!" We're stuck with each other. And that's awesome.
Yes. I felt the same way, everytime he would do something or his family would do something I would ask myself, "Do I really want to make a promise to God that I will deal with this for the rest of my life?" But then we work through it and we become closer.
*hugs* I occasionally feel like this. Like a "Holy COW, it's real!"...and then I freak out. We have a loooong way to go til we're settled in one place, and that scares me, but I can't imagine not having him around. That's when I know it's real.
Ah, it's funny this post came up! I just had a moment like this last week. See, my fiance and I have known each other since we were 13. He even asked me out in Grade 10 (but I shot him down, ouch). I never would have thought we'd end up getting married, or even dating - not that I didn't find him attractive or anything, because by the time Grade 12 rolled around I had a crush on him, but I just couldn't have imagined it. So throughout the course of our relationship, I've occasionally had moments where I've suddenly felt physically dizzy (kind of like deja vu) and I realize, "Oh my god, I'm dating ______ from high school! How cool is that?"
So since we're engaged now, that feeling is amplified so much. A few days ago I had that same dizzy feeling, except it wasn't just, Wow, I'm dating _____ from high school but I'm marrying ____ from high school! And his children will be my children, and his big memories will be my big memories, and my and his life will now be our life, inextricably linked. It's a huge deal, it's a big choice, and it blows my mind that we're making it together.
So yes, suffice to say, it has hit me!
@redherring: we oftentimes quote m's daughter and say i guess i'm stuck with you... then respond i guess so and just grin like crazy
I still don't think it has hit me yet, and we've been engaged for almost a year! :)
I had a realization about things a little while ago. We aren't getting married for a year and a half but we are going to try and get a new car this coming summer, then start looking at apartments at the first of the year, and then he'll move in around March, and get settled, and then I'll move in in June, since that's when the wedding is....It is a ways away, but thinking of all those big things, it seems overwhelming, like..OMG, I'm growing up, and I'm getting married, and it's coming quickly.
I'm in this same place, just recently being engaged, and it's really weird. Sometimes I'm like "oh my gosh, this is it...is this really the ONE MAN I want to commit to FOREVER?" When it's all said and done, of course I do, but those moments when it's really real it scares me too. It's overwhelming, but I just keep having to remember that it's one step at a time. :)
I always find this to be a pretty smacking realization. I think it's scary, because you don't know what forever entails.
But who better to find out with, you know?
Soo weird cause today I felt like this!!!! today is the 9 month mark.. (just wrote a post) and I feel nervous! The past month we have been having arguments.. mainly be being a nagging negative nut! I think I keep thinking of the whole planning instead of one step at a time. Glad to see I am not alone.
oh totally! it hit me after we went ring shopping. once i was away from all the shiny bling i was able to sit and think about what was really happening. it freaked me out. sure we talked about marriage and our future repeatedly but it wasn't until we actually went ring shopping that it made it real. we were really serious about making that commitment to one another. he was going to be my husband and i was going to be his wife. FOREVER.
suffice it to say, it was a quiet ride home. lol. but it was good to reflect on that and make sure i was in it for real, that this was a commitment i was ready and willing to make. but i came out of it knowing that this was exactly what i want. to stand by his side as his wife from now until eternity. and it's more than just a romantic love or desire, this is for real.
and i can't wait to formally make that commitment to him.
it hasn't totally hit me yet, but i've definitely been thinking about it more these days. it's a weird catch 22 because part of me is really excited and i feel like i've known for so long that he's the one, i just want to get on with already! i know that forever is forever so what's the rush right? but on the other hand, i'm kinda glad that we've waiting this long to decide to start moving towards marriage because i feel confident that i'll be marrying someone i truly want to spend the rest of my life with!
i'm sure once we're enaged and it becomes really real, this thought will knock me off me feet!
It hit like, right before I walked down the aisle, lol. A little panic of "oh wow this is huge!" but after it was all said and done, all i felt was RELIEF. As in "whew that big mess is over...on with our lives!"
Oh yes... It hits me at least once a week. Usually when I see him on Saturday afternoon. I look at him and say, "OMG! I'm going to be married to this handsome man." It's totally normal.
HAHA. we joke all the time - when I tell him "guess what?" him: "what?" and I reply "I love you"... him: "really? that's good - cuz ya know this thing's forever"...
:D
@junebride, lol. that's a lot better than what my guy tells me. when we're joking around and i tell him i love him, he replies, "you better." lol.
It hit me when we were shopping for his wedding band. I looked over and saw a ring on his finger and thought "Holy Sh!t, this is real!"
omg, i had the same feeling sunday night. we have talked about marriage for the past three months so it's nothing new. his parents are visiting for three weeks later this month. this will be the make it or break it moment for an engagement. so we were talking and i was saying how i want things between us to not change and everything. so then he says well we can go from dating to engaged within a three week period. that's when it really hit me. i stopped and was quiet for a bit. i can't wait for it to happen but it's still a huge change.
What an awesome post Min!!
It doesn't feel real to me yet.... and I'm getting married in 7 months. I had a moment last night where I was like "Oh my gosh... we're going to be 'The Recessionistas'. WHAT?!" lol I was freaking & suddenly realized how funny his last name sounds the first time you hear it.
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Somday I'll be engaged.
He's actually going to...you know...ask me to marry him! And he'll get down on one knee and give me a ring or something! And I'll have to say yes or no or maybe cry a lot (hopefully not). And after that, I will commit to spending the rest of my life with this one man. Forever. And we're going to spend lots of money on a wedding and honeymoon. And then we're going to be MARRIED.
AAAAAAAAAH.
...You'd think I would have realized how real this is a long time ago...like, back in May, when I first started working on the backyard to prepare for a potential outdoor reception, or in August, when I started to fiendishly research weddings.
Uh, no. It didn't hit me until now.
I'm not gonna lie. I'm freaking out a little. I mean, I've always known marriage is serious and I've thought about it a lot and taken on all the trappings of smart decision making. It's just never felt so real before. This is literally a grave decision I'm making; if I marry him, I live with that decision until the day I die, for better or worse. I'm certainly not worried about my choice to be with my SO, but all the same, this is heavy stuff! I better not screw this up, LOL!
Have any other ladies in waiting, or bees in general, had a moment like this? Where all of a sudden "it hits you?"