Post # 1
So my FH and I have taken out a loan to work on his parent shouse as it is the only way we can afford a place of ouor own. We are so excited and now we can set THE DATE!!!!!!!!!!! Now when u take out aloan you need tons of paperwork includin DIVORCE PAPERS. Well he never got a copy of the divorce but it was done. Th ex is re-married n all and she has the copies. Well she is basically holding the paper s ransom for several thousand dollars. I cannot tell you how LIVID I AM. They were divorced 20 years ago!!! Like hunny move onnnnnnnn. We are so close and now so far yet again. I’m with him so long and can’t wait to get our life started already. I can’t imagine a person being so ugly inside! SO does anyone know how to go about getting such documents? I’ve been on peoplefinder and sites t=like that which ask for a VERY small amount of money but a scared they may be spam and steal my identity. Has anyone used these before?
Post # 3
@StarIzInkd: ….. all you have to do is go to the county clerk’s office that the divorce was filed in.
Post # 4
agreed with the pp…go tothe clerks office. you might be able to request them online.
Post # 5
LOL you’re stressing too much- go to (or contact) the county clerk where the divorce was filed and get a copy! you can get copies of all legal paperwork, like birth certificates, too 🙂
Post # 6
I agree. It’s gotta be just like any other legal docs, you must be able to request it from the town or state. There’s no way a legal doc would be held by a single person only and not an official office.
Post # 7
Ok so I can jut call the court office and find out how to do this? I’ve been trying to search online and can’t find anything. We actually have 2 days to get this in order for us to keep our loan closing date so that already sucks It’s nto the end of the world if its pushed back a little bit. Thanks bees <3 Will try on Tuesday I guess.
Post # 8
your fh will need to be the one to pick them up but this shouldn’t take mote than a phone call to yhe cout house for the “how to” portion of all this.
Post # 9
It seems like your FI could get them from the County Courthouse. But I doubt you can get them. I’m sure he would have to.
Post # 10
Why is she asking for money? Does he still owe her some thing according to the divorce?
He will need to be the one contacting for any papers. Did he have a lawyer? He can ask them too.
Post # 11
…You don’t need to call for instructions. Your fiance has to drive to the county court house of the county in which his divorce was processed. Once inside the courthouse, he needs to go to the clerk’s office. There will most like be a sign that says VITAL RECORDS. This is the same place where he got his marriage license. Super quick and easy.
Post # 12
Been there… done that.
My Ex was a HUGE JERK… he had to pay for our Final Divorce Decree as per our last day in court… but guess what, he then HELD ONTO ALL THAT PAPERWORK (like your situation… anything to be a PITA… my ass)
And ya, my research led me to discover after my Divorce, that for an Original I needed to fork out several hundred dollars (money I did not have)
But the last laugh was on me in the end…
Cause you can get by without if you are lucky.
You need to read the “fine print”… are they looking for the Divorce Decris (the legal document) or will they be satisfied with just a Divorce Certificate
A copy of the Decree, tends to cost BIG BUCKS to get from the Courts
A copy of a Certified Divorce Certificate a lot less, and can easily be obtained from the Courthouse where the Divorce was granted.
The Certified Divorce Certificate is just a statement that says… “Ya we granted them a Divorce on Date XYZ”
Example, in my case I was able to get the latter for a mere $ 20. And cause it had all the required stamps & seals, it was sufficient to use for my Marriage License in my chosen State (Florida)
Hope this helps,
~~Sending you good vibes~~
Post # 13
They should have it on record and be able to print it off for you!
Just go to your town clerk’s office tomorrow (if they’re open) or Monday (if they’re not)
Post # 14
Keep in mind that Monday is Veteran’s Day. Here in MI, all of the gov’t offices are closed, to include our county court house. Since it is a federal holiday, I”m sure different states will handle that differently.
Post # 15
Not sure where the ex fits in.
Divorce is public record, like marriage, birth, and death in the USA.. your post shows you’re here so I’m going to assume he is too?
If so it’s just a matter (as others have said) of contacting the county the divorce happened in and paying a small fee to get the document, usually you can get the full divorce decree for a small processing type fee usually well under $50.
Don’t waste time with the ex… she can’t produce certfied copies anyhow if that’s what you need.
@This Time Round: I had no idea court records were so hard to get in Canada! 🙁 Sorry you went through that!
Post # 16
@This Time Round: Thanks so much for the vibes. It sucks when people are just plain ugly inside and want to make life difficult even 20 years after the fact. Ugh.
Thanks all. The courts are closed today so he will try tomorrow. We are hoping he does not have to go in person because it’s over 100 miles away and he works crazy hours and we need it like NOW but will do what we gotta do. LEt’s see what happens tomorrow 🙂