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He didnt' see you in it though and at that point it would be different I would hope.
I'm sorry this seems super stressful. My FI once I bought a dress stopped commenting on wedding dresses that we saw on tv or whatever everytime I would show him one he always says, that's nice and before I got a dress he was super opinionated, just so that he wouldn't comment on something that I bought.
First - Please don't post in all caps. Its really hard to read and is considered "yelling".
If you really want, call the store and see if you can change the order. How did the situation go? Did he see you in the dress or just a picture of the dress? Did he say he hates it? Did he give you reason why?
Well. Unless he is an expert or something, it's your dress and it doesn't really matter what he thinks. He hates the dress you wanted to marry him in? Shouldn't he have been happy to see you in a wedding dress at all? Shouldn't he have said "oh you're so beautiful!" What if he hadn't have seen it until the wedding day? Would he have told you on the altar how ugly your dress was?
Sorry, that just doesn't seem right.
He will love you in it on the wedding day, boys are terrible at picturing the whole look. If you love it and don't care that hes seen it already just keep it.
well i showed his mom a picture of the dress and she didnt really comment much on it, just..well as long as you like it. I have got the same comments from pretty much everyone i have showed a picture to. He said it has to many Rhinestones and just wasnt at all what he pictures and asked me "what was I thinking??" I dont have a picture of me in it because it was a trunk show and i didnt actually try on the dress bc it was a size 4 and that does not fit me hah
Well, he hasn't seen you in it yet. It's probably too late now without giving it all away, but if you get the chance, maybe ask him specifically what he doesn't like about the dress. Boys are silly about such things & he may be turned off by the model's hair style or something.
If you feel really insecure about it, I'd ask the store about canceling the order.
@ADKBride: I think I remember your dress post. I can kinda see how he might be a little surprised by it, it was very unique and sparkly. If YOU love it and that's what you want stick with it. At the end of the day your wedding dress shouldn't be the most important part of your day. Otherwise maybe call the store and see if you can cancel. It seemed like you had a LONG time before you even had to pay for it in full?
@KaitlinHudson: I'm not sure that your reply was entirely sympathetic.
@ADKBride: I'm sorry you are stressed ! It must be super stressful ! But how about a few alterations to change it a bit? Can you post a picture of it from the web? HUGS
EDIT ! I saw your dress yesterday and it's gorgeous and you said you already want to alter it right?
It wont be ready until Feb. 2012 so i do have a long time. But most of that time its being made. So im just hoping i can call tom'w and cancel and put the $$ towards another dress there....it was a picture of the actual dress. No model was wearing it, it was on a manaquin.
@ADKBride: I think with your alterations it will be completely different !
So he knew that was the dress you picked and actually said "what were you thinking"? Wow. Well that's a bit mean.
If you're really that uncomfortable with it, try to change your order. Personally, depending on how hard it was for you to find a dress you loved in the first place, I'd just keep it. He's not going to look at you on your wedding day when you're all dolled up and look beautiful in your dress and go ..."Wow, that dress has too many rhinestones". (I hope!)
@ADKBride: If you love the dress then keep it. By 2012 he won't even remember he's seen it before.
Also, seeing a dress on YOU is totally different than seeing it on a mannequin.
If YOU don't like the dress, then call the store and try to change it. My main worry would be buying a dress without being able to try it on. But if you are certain it is the dress you want, then don't sweat it.
I don't particularly like the dress, but if YOU love it....that's all that matters. You should feel beautiful on your day.
There's nothing wrong with the dress at all. It's pretty and could look beautiful on almost anyone. It just depends on your taste. I had a similar experience but thankfully I hadn't paid for the gown yet. I had several shots of dresses including the one I was about to purchaseand went through them randomly with him. He didn't like it at all!
So out the door with that one! When I eventually found MY dress, I just knew it was THE one! I didn't even care what anyone else thought. This was MINE! I make the final payment today.
When you know it, you know it! So if that's your dress, then he'll love you in it no matter what! YOUR JOY WILL OUTSHINE ANY GARMENT ANYWAY!
@ADKBride: I saw the picture you posted of your dress and I am soooo jealous! It is gorgeous! He just needs to see you in it! And as far as any other family members' opinions on the dress, they dont matter. Its the confidence and the happiness that will exude from you when you put this dress on that is going to make it truly beautiful :)
I would cancel the order and change it. You didn't try it on anyway, which its hard to believe but many of the dresses I LOVED, looked terrible on me. There's still one I want to buy just to wear around the house, LOL I liked it that much. Anyway, you have plenty of time, so keep looking :)
Honestly, he saw just a picture, not you actually IN the dress! Those are two completely different things. That said, I would make sure you've actually tried on the dress so you know what you look like in it. It would be awful to spend all that $$ and then try it on and not like it. That said, by 2012, I agree, he won't remember at all.
ugh thats a nightmare!! guys are kinda dumb about dresses though. if he sees you in the dress he might have a completely different opinion- that happens alot on SYTTD lol.
You said in your previous post that you were going to alter the dress, so I bet it will look better on you once you have it more tailored to your liking. If it looks good on you than I doubt he will complain!
Try to stop stressing! If you paid half you probably won't be able to change your order, especially if it's custom. Take comfort in knowing this though: Your FI loves you for who you are and that includes your style. I'm sure the entire course of your relationship you've been choosing your own outfits and obviously if he's marrying you, your style hasn't gotten in the way. Just be confident in your choice. The dress is nice. Once he sees you walking down that aisle all other thoughts except, "Man do I love that beautiful woman!" will be gone from his head :) He loves you for you, remember that!
Try not to worry about it! My husband didn't see my dress ahead of time, but I pointed it out in a magazine to a few people, and didn't get very good responses. Even I didn't like the way it looked in the magazine though, and it looked completely different on me! Those same friends mentioned after they saw me in the dress that they were wrong. Don't worry about it - they look so much different in pictures than they do on actual people.
@CupCakeMeg: This was her thread yesterday and like I said, I think it's gorgeous !
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/ordered-my-dress-today-stephen-yearick
Whoa - you ordered a dress without knowing what it looks like on your body? That's taking a mighty huge risk! Kudos to you because I know I'd have to see it on me probably 20 times before I would buy it!!
I showed my husband a picture of my dress (without telling him that it was my dress, I just pointed out that the color scheme was the same as ours, and isn't that dress pretty) and his response - eh, it's okay. Now he won't let me get rid of my dress because it was the most beautiful and perfect dress and I looked so lovely. There's a big difference between the dress and you in the dress on your wedding day. My dress was nothing that he said he wanted me to wear. In fact, it was what he said he didn't want me to wear, but I liked it (and I don't listen well). If you love your dress, keep it, he'll love his new wife in whatever she wears, you'll be perfect that day. Good luck.
I thought based on your previous thread that the dress hasnt actually been ordered yet? I thought you said it would be ordered in about 6months or so. Also I never really understand when brides freak out that their FI hates the dress. When he sees you on your wedding day in the entire outfit he will think you look amazing, guys cant always envision what it will look like on you when properly altered, with all accessories.
The thing is, for most men, they don't spend all day looking at dresses. I think most of them have a very generalized image in their head of what the dress is going to look like. A-line or ball gown, white, probably tulle involved somewhere. It's sort of a Generic Bride Costume idea they have, and they assume whatever you wear will be a variation on that theme.
To be honest your dress is not my style, but I think your FI's reaction may be more due to his being just surprised about its shape etc! A lot of dresses worn nowadays are in a style that would have traditionally been seen on red carpets or at a burlesque review (I don't mean the clothes are trampy at all, just that they kind of have a Hollywood or "Moulin Rouge" 19th century line to them). I think your dress is just clashing with the "classic bride style" image he has. If it's too late to change your dress, don't fret, it's probably just a matter of letting him get used to the idea. Maybe show him all the different styles in magazines that are big trends right now (mermaid, one shoulder etc)!
With these styles it's more likely in 20 years you will snicker at your wedding pictures, but there's something to be said for dated pictures. Those are the fun ones!
I agree with all the ladies. He probably will think it's beautiful on you. You can also ask him why he doesn't like it and see if something can be done about it. For example my FI asked me to not get a ballgown because he thinks they look like upside down flower. So if he doesn't like the straps or the whole big tulle skirt just tell him that it'll look different once it's done!
BTW.. FIs are usually clueless when it comes to fashion :) He'll be too excited and emotional when he sees you coming down the aisle that he'll forget about the dress.
I dunno...I'm kind of on the post about this. If you can cancel the dress then I would and find out what kind of dress he pictures his bride in. I am sure you look beautiful in it but his response about it will remain in the back of your head no matter what.
I think if you're worried, cancel it. It'd be worth the piece of mind. Esp if you have 2 years to worry he's going to hate your dress. I agree that he'll probably love whatever you wear though.
You will look beautiful in the dress. I like the sound of your alterations (but how will the top stay up w/ out straps? It's not the typical strapless. Sorry, I just like straps I think! I was trying to ADD them to all of the dresses I tried on!) Just a warning, PLEASE order the dress in your size at your first fitting. Otherwise, you will be stressed trying to lose weight if you ordered the dress too small. Honestly, I don't think my husband would have been too jazzed with my dress either until he saw me on the big day. My little sister/MOH helped me choose it and then was like "meh" when I tried it on the first time (ordered online!). Everyone hated my birdcage veil and red lipstick, but on the big day...yeah, eat it folks -I looked great and everyone had to eat their unsupportive words. 
Only try to return the dress if YOU don't like it anymore. And please post some pics of you in it when you have some.
@Magdalena: "generic bride costume" hahahaha -LMAO. SO true!!
So many people have a hard time actually visualizing how things will look. I've seen thsi over and over with people in my life. Sometimes I work so hard on something and can see the way the final result will be and everyone around me is like "oh. thats nice" when I show it to them halfway through. You will look stunning in your gown and FI will completely forget his reaction to the picture when he sees YOU.
I don't think you should worry one bit! You know what you like and what looks good on you. What it looks like on the model may look nothing like it on you.... You know what looks good and not so trust yourself!
Also as a story of encouragement... when we were first engagement ring shopping my fiance HATED halo rings. Could not even be bothered to glance at them and shuttered at the idea.... but then when we took the time to try them on my actual finger he couldn't live without it! So you never know!
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IDK WHAT TO DO!??! I put half down on my order, which was about $2500 but they havent ordered it yet. Im going back in 6 months for a ftting so we know what size to order bc im planning on dropping 2 sizes. Do you think i can still change my order!?!?!?!