Post # 1
IDK WHAT TO DO!??! I put half down on my order, which was about $2500 but they havent ordered it yet. Im going back in 6 months for a ftting so we know what size to order bc im planning on dropping 2 sizes. Do you think i can still change my order!?!?!?!
Post # 3
oh man. he told you he hates it??? what did he say??
Post # 4
He didnt’ see you in it though and at that point it would be different I would hope.
I’m sorry this seems super stressful. My FI once I bought a dress stopped commenting on wedding dresses that we saw on tv or whatever everytime I would show him one he always says, that’s nice and before I got a dress he was super opinionated, just so that he wouldn’t comment on something that I bought.
Post # 5
First – Please don’t post in all caps. Its really hard to read and is considered “yelling”.
If you really want, call the store and see if you can change the order. How did the situation go? Did he see you in the dress or just a picture of the dress? Did he say he hates it? Did he give you reason why?
Post # 6
Well. Unless he is an expert or something, it’s your dress and it doesn’t really matter what he thinks. He hates the dress you wanted to marry him in? Shouldn’t he have been happy to see you in a wedding dress at all? Shouldn’t he have said “oh you’re so beautiful!” What if he hadn’t have seen it until the wedding day? Would he have told you on the altar how ugly your dress was?
Sorry, that just doesn’t seem right.
Post # 7
He will love you in it on the wedding day, boys are terrible at picturing the whole look. If you love it and don’t care that hes seen it already just keep it.
Post # 8
well i showed his mom a picture of the dress and she didnt really comment much on it, just..well as long as you like it. I have got the same comments from pretty much everyone i have showed a picture to. He said it has to many Rhinestones and just wasnt at all what he pictures and asked me “what was I thinking??” I dont have a picture of me in it because it was a trunk show and i didnt actually try on the dress bc it was a size 4 and that does not fit me hah
Post # 9
Well, he hasn’t seen you in it yet. It’s probably too late now without giving it all away, but if you get the chance, maybe ask him specifically what he doesn’t like about the dress. Boys are silly about such things & he may be turned off by the model’s hair style or something.
If you feel really insecure about it, I’d ask the store about canceling the order.
Post # 10
@ADKBride: I think I remember your dress post. I can kinda see how he might be a little surprised by it, it was very unique and sparkly. If YOU love it and that’s what you want stick with it. At the end of the day your wedding dress shouldn’t be the most important part of your day. Otherwise maybe call the store and see if you can cancel. It seemed like you had a LONG time before you even had to pay for it in full?
Post # 11
@KaitlinHudson: I’m not sure that your reply was entirely sympathetic.
@ADKBride: I’m sorry you are stressed ! It must be super stressful ! But how about a few alterations to change it a bit? Can you post a picture of it from the web? HUGS
EDIT ! I saw your dress yesterday and it’s gorgeous and you said you already want to alter it right?
Post # 12
It wont be ready until Feb. 2012 so i do have a long time. But most of that time its being made. So im just hoping i can call tom’w and cancel and put the $$ towards another dress there….it was a picture of the actual dress. No model was wearing it, it was on a manaquin.
Post # 13
@ADKBride: I think with your alterations it will be completely different !
Post # 14
So he knew that was the dress you picked and actually said “what were you thinking”? Wow. Well that’s a bit mean.
If you’re really that uncomfortable with it, try to change your order. Personally, depending on how hard it was for you to find a dress you loved in the first place, I’d just keep it. He’s not going to look at you on your wedding day when you’re all dolled up and look beautiful in your dress and go …”Wow, that dress has too many rhinestones”. (I hope!)
Post # 15
@ADKBride: If you love the dress then keep it. By 2012 he won’t even remember he’s seen it before.
Also, seeing a dress on YOU is totally different than seeing it on a mannequin.
If YOU don’t like the dress, then call the store and try to change it. My main worry would be buying a dress without being able to try it on. But if you are certain it is the dress you want, then don’t sweat it.
Post # 16
I don’t particularly like the dress, but if YOU love it….that’s all that matters. You should feel beautiful on your day.