Post # 1
Okay so long story short: I have 4 members of my bridal party. I’ll name them A, B, C, and D. A and B are two long-time best friends (equally as long time), both live out of the country, so they can’t really do much. Matron of Honor A helps me through emails and texts, Maid of Honor B can’t help at all because I’m barely able to talk to her because of her location… she can’t even 100% guarantee me that she’ll be able to make it (she is FAR away)! They’re both my BEST friends.
Then comes along Bridesmaid C, my cousin, here, able to help me and has been there for everything I’ve asked her to be there for. She has even volunteered herself to hold my dress up while I pee (haha)! She is one of my best friends and she has REALLY stepped up so I HAD to make her a Maid of Honor… now I have 3 MOHs and 1 regular bridesmaid (D is groom’s sister).
This isn’t right, right? What can I do??
Post # 3
IMO I think it’s fantastic that you have three such close friends! If you are happy to have 3 MOH’s and if none of them have a problem with sharing the duties, then I think it should be fine, and hopefully less stress for you!
Post # 4
I had a similiar problem, my two sister and my best friend and ALL were fighting to be MOH. So I made it simple, they are ALL bridesmaids. They are all equal. I just told them that each one of them is just as important t me as the other and that I want them ALL there with me through everything. They’re happy!
Post # 5
I didn’t designate anyone MOH either, I had 2 sisters and there was no way. I tried to split the duties up evenly so they each got enough attention and “honour” 🙂 In my mind it would be better to have 1 MOH and 3 BMs, or just 4 BMs – I think there is potential for the single BM to feel really singled out as the least important person (not saying that’s the case, just that it would be easy to see why she might feel that way).