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I'm sorry I know this isn't original, but I just found out my longtime ex-college boyfriend is married! It's shocking news because I never even heard about an engagement and they've been married for over a year now! Not that I keep in touch with him - I don't believe in that - but we obviously have some mutual friends still who didn't even mention it to me!!
Has this happened to anyone else?? I feel like I shouldn't care, but I'm shocked!
I actually just found out not long ago (via FB) that my ex was not only married, but is now divorced! It was a double-shock!
We did not keep in touch or have mutual friends though so it's easy to understand why I didn't hear about it. Interesting though that you have mutual friends who didn't mention it....they were probably just trying to protect your feelings!
Oh I totally had this shock when my ex got engaged!
It's a weird feeling! I think I was just jealous that he got engaged first which is still a feeling a shouldn't have and I was confused about!
I would be a little shocked too especially if they were a long time ex-boyfriend. That being said, dont focus on it, enjoy your upcoming wedding and being married :) I agree with Lorienne about your friends, they probably didnt want to upset you or maybe they thought you didnt want to hear about it.
I worked at a bridal registry and that is where I found out my ex was getting married! He came in with his FI to add some stuff. It was a little weird especially since she was the reason we broke up....
Yeah, ouch! I hope they didn't know ahead of time you worked there, that would have been messed up..
I found out my ex was married by running into them with my new husband. It was the most awkward night ever...
Sorry that you had to find out in a weird way. It's hard, no matter how long it's been or how you felt when you broke up.
I found out through Facebook, of course! Wow, I did a triple quadrouple take when I saw her hypenated last name. and of course googled them to get confirmation.
Wow!
Oh man. Mr. MJ's ex found out via a registry ad on facebook. Talk about awkward. I just told my Ex today so there'll be no nasty or hurtful facebook discoveries on that end.
Thanks lorienne! I do have to say though, its funny how things work out. I don't think I would have moved out of my parents house when I did if it wasn't for him. And if I hadn't moved I would never have met my FI!
*Side note- I didn't move for the guy, it just happened that a friend had just moved to the city and was looking for a roommate. I didn't move because of a guy, he was just a perk!
@ sweetkate: ouch,... thats just bad form!
i only have the one ex BF and a few years ago i was at the grocery store and there he was with a baby - seems the female friend of his that i had issues with and he got together the day we broke up and said baby was the result
fast forward a few more years and (at the same shopping centre mind you!) i walk to my car and there is a white car parked next to mine with a banshee mum in the car screaming at the 3 girls inside who are screaming and then the ex walks up to the car and kinda starts yelling about all the screaming - seems they had twins since the first baby
he looked at me (i had lost 100lbs by then), i looked at him, i got into my new Audi (company car mind you so dont get too excited for me) and drove off. ive since heard that he lost his job (he lied about his medical condition), lost the house and they have divorced which is sad but i dont care enough to lose sleep over it
Yeah this is always rough, even if you're totally over the ex! I was totally googling my ex (shameful I know) since I hadn't heard anything in a long time and found a marriage annoucement from the year before! Totally weirded me out.
@ MordernDaisy... yeah, who would have thought he was so fertile and wasnt i lucky!!
Ugh, its such a weird feeling when ex's get married! I knew that my ex got married but I don't think his wife knew that. About a year later I got laid off from work and I signed into AIM for the first time in FOREVER and had something about looking for a job on my away message. She messaged me, told me what a loser I was and kept saying "my husband". I happened to be in a really good mood that night so it didn't bother me. But still... B!!
OMG Daisy - thats so rude.. even if you were the b**** girlfriend from hell, people should just let it go and move on (not saying you were but if thats the impression she got for some reason)
Eloping - you sound WAY better off!
Daisybride - wtf??
You know, my ex's wife (wow!) actually graduated from our same college the same year! And it was a small liberal arts college! So I'm assuming she knows who I am or at least heard a lot about me.. oh the thoughts are swirling..
I found out that my best friend's sister is pregnant with my ex so now they are engaged. Lol Crazy huh?
My ex is on his second engagement (broke off the first one) since me and bf have been together!
I just found out yesterday that my ex-FI is getting married. All of my exes (at least the serious ones) except for one have gotten married in the last 2 years. I found out about all of them through Facebook or Myspace. None of our mutual friends let me know either.
Although I wish them the best, its kind of aggravating that they're all able to afford these weddings and I can't. Grr.
My ex got engaged several months after I did but got married a week before us! I was pretty steamed when I found out his date. 
as has been already stated......no matter how long ago the ties have been broken....it's still hard/awkward/weird to hear about an ex getting married. i don't believe in living in the past, but at the same time, somehow i think positively about the hard/awkward/weird feelings because, if they meant something to us, then it would have some sort of effect. it doesn't necessarily mean we want them back in our lives. wow, that is probably one of the longest run-on sentences i've ever written.........
Ugh...the engaged ex. Always feels weird. For me, I always wonder if they wonder what happened to me or if it's just me wondering about them.
Oh I totally hear you! When I found out my ex was getting married (to the girl he semi-cheated on me with-- its complicated...) I wasn't sad, just shocked! But in a strange way I was glad. I mean, I figure if you're going to get dumped, at least its for "the one" and not some random bimbo (or is she?) 
And plus, now that I've found my "one" I know how very much better off I am!
I secretly think my ex is on a mission to get engaged now that I am. Is that bad? Seriously, haven't even SEEN him since the DAY we broke up and he still facebook stalks me and my sisters. The day after I changed my relationship status his away status said "Hurts...". Ahem, we haven't seen eachother since 2001!
None of my ex boyfriends that are still on my radar (friends of friends or on FB) have gotten married. Oooh wait-1 has. We dated for a short time. I found out he was married (he told me he just got divorced). We broke up, Wife 1 moved back in. A year later he divorced Wife 1 and a month later married Wife 2. I laughed. And thanked my lucky stars I got out when I did!
It's funny, but one of my college xbf's (one I dated when off at the medical center and he was in law school) got married and never said a thing about it.
When I was divorcing 5 years ago (he was single then) he actually called and had found out from a mutual friend about what was going on and called up my soon to be ex husband and chewed him out for cheating on me!
Fast forward to about 3 weeks ago. In my "in" box on my email, lo and behold there's an email from him. He's a D.A. now. He asked me about my status and I told him (not yet engaged but in serious committment) and he said after wanting me to call him that HE had gotten married.
He also wanted to know if I'd meet up with some of his old friends whom I am also friends with to go to a college football game in a few weeks...SANS is new wife. Um..NOOOOOO! I told him that I respect a marriage, despite the fact my ex didn't respect ours and that I just could not do that unless he'd want T to come along also!
My ex boyfriend who treated me horribly is engaged. It's to a girl who used to be one of my best friends. I almost said something to her about staying away from him. But, I had not been with him for years or talked to her for years. The moment they got together she came on my myspace and commented on it. Then I found out she is pregnant. I feel so bad for her, and the child. They have been together less than 6 months. FI and I been together for about 3 years. My ex doesn't want kids and will have one soon.
I'm not innocent in this though. My FI is his ex best friend. FI broke off their friendship because instead of paying him over $300 he owed him, my ex decided to go buy clothing from Old Navy. My ex stole my money, and almost drained my savings. (I was naive, and young back then.) I didn't date my FI until 3 years after my ex and I broke it off.
Sorry for the novel 
Wow, I've read a lot of responses where the Ex married a girl he cheated with - I wonder if the cheating girl knew what she was getting into??
Wow. I dated a guy for 3 weeks, he broke up with me for his ex-girlfriend (who cheated on him while he was in Afghanistan), they got married, and then they got divorced within like, a year. I saw it all unfold on facebook.
My other ex is still single...has been for 5 years. That tells me something, lol.
I basically could care less, but the first guy actually messaged me saying he guesses he shouldn't have left me for her. Oops!
I win, I got the best guy in the end though =]
Wow, I totally understand the feeling! For me, I dated a guy for 5 years before he finally came out and said, I don't think I'll ever want to marry you. So we broke up and 6 months after that, he met some other girl at a party and three months after he met her, they got married and a year later, they had their first child. That hurt so bad, it took me years to get over.
I actually remember the first time I found out one of my ex's were married (Lol My best friend's sister getting pregnant with my ex wasn't my first experience) was when I was still in highschool. The guy I dated had been older than me, so he was already graduated and gone when I saw him in the mall one day with a girl and a baby in a stroller! So here I am in like the 10th or 11th grade and it really freaks me out haha, plus after saying Hi to them and commenting on how cute the baby was the wife and baby walk off to talk to someone else and the ex goes "You know, I really wish she was you." I was like "What?!?! You need to never say stuff like that again!" and I walked off. Some people really have no shame.
Did any of you experience having their exes come out of the woodwork right before the wedding?
My college boyfriend (who has been married for 8 years) called me the week before the wedding. He'd just had a dream about me that I was stressed and so he wanted to check on me (even though we hadn't talked in like 5 years). I assured him that I was alright, but was just getting married. I thought his call was sweet, but he was embarassed that he had called and that he had misinterpreted his dream. I was, however, impressed with his ability to tap into my mental state all these years later!
Then, right around the same time, my roommate ran into another ex with his baby and his baby momma. I was never serious about that guy... but it still drove the point home that my instincts were correct!
Itsn't it just a weird feeling that can't be explained?! One of the guys I dated in college, married the girl he dated after me....although him & I weren't that serious, it was still weird. I think that is one of those things where it was like "whoah if it happend so soon after me, it could of been me" sort of things....strange!
Thank goodness for things not working out with past BFs, eh?!
This hasn't happened to me yet, but how I feel when it does happen will be interesting to say the least.
Mrs. DG: My ex totally facebook messaged me the week before my wedding. (We aren't "friends, but I guess anyone can send a message?) I have not spoken with him for about 6 years, and we are not on friendly terms. He basically wrote the old "I'm still in love with you and am so sorry I was so stupid" letter. Idiot.
If I heard my ex was married, I'd feel bad for the girl...not weird at all.
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