- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Holy cow. Holy freakin’ cow. This wedding stuff is EXPENSIVE. I’m getting so frustrated and I haven’t even officially started planning. :'( I am not going to spend twenty THOUSAND dollars on less than 7 hours of my life. I’m just not going to do it. I don’t know I can pull of the wedding my groom seems to want but I cannot and will not spend that kind of money.
Gah. I’m panicking. We started talking about setting a date (11.11.11) and a location (was going to be a Destination Wedding to Jamaica). What we’ve decided is that since it’s very important to his family (and him on some level) to marry in the Catholic church, to marry in his hometown in the Catholic church.
Well, his family is full of really really good Catholics. And he wants to invite all of them. First cousins, second cousins, third cousins, cousins he hasn’t seen in 20 years, cousins he doesn’t know their names, cousins he’s never met. And I just don’t get it. I realize that they all live in his hometown but that doesn’t mean he has to invite them all.
We’re looking at a guest list of estimated 200 (I say estimated because he has NO IDEA how many cousins he has). At $50 a head for 200 people (what seems to be a reasonable estimate for catering) that’s $10,000. That’s not including decorations, centerpieces, favors, dj, photography, attire, church fees, transportation, hotel, or anything.
I don’t understand why he thinks he needs to invite these people he doesn’t even know! I get that they’re hanging off the family tree somewhere, but that doesn’t mean they need an invite. I’m so overwhelmed and he hasn’t even put the ring on my finger yet.