Post # 1
I’m working on the guest list for our wedding and I ask my FI for his side of the list and gives me it, mind you he has a big family and there seems to be a lot of people with the same first and last name. sons getting named after their father or grandfather type of thing. I sent an email to his mom nicely saying how it would be appreciated if she could compile a list of people with formal names and addresses And get it back to me by no later than April 2015. our wedding is May 2016 and due to distance of a good majority of guests we are sending out save the dates a year in advance. Well that was a week ago and she already got back to me. I almost died when I saw the attachment instead of it being Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe, it was Mrs. and Mr. John Doe this was an issue because i couldn’t tell if it was his cousin uncle or grandfather For a quote a few. Also for some guests over the age of 18 she still put their parents address as theirs and I have no way of knowing if they live at home with their parents or will be when the save the dates go out. In no way did i want this list back yet I thought I was bring nice by giving Her time since the family is so big but it seems I have only caused my self more stress. Sorry this was so long just need to vent a little so I wouldn’t pull my hair out
Post # 2
Blueeyedgirl212121: Things like this are only stressful if you choose to let them be so.
You have loads of time to ask her to clarify the issues for you.
Don”t start with “head explosions” so early in your planning or there will be nothing left of you by the time your wedding date rolls around.
Post # 3
Blueeyedgirl212121: I’d recommend sending her back the excel with a row of all the fields you need – Guest first name, Guest last name, +1 first name, +1 last name, Address, Live with parents? (Y/N). The good thing is that you have lots of time to work on this. If you need something very specific, I’ve found that it’s usually better if you show people the template you need. It’ll all work out!
Post # 4
I was exaggerating it was meant to be funny but I guess the humor was lost. I know I can just call her and clarify and I can also talk to the people in question at a later date. Also my FI has been helpful. It was just suppose to be a silly haha, I cant believe that happened but obvioulsy people are very serious. Oh well
Post # 5
It might help to have another column with the relationship (uncle, cousin) in it. That way you will know for sure that you have invited uncle joe smith, cousin joe smith and brother joe smith.
I would also recommend getting one of those invisible ink pens and number your invites. That way when you get two Joe Smith’s RSVPing yes and one RSVPing no you know whose who.