(Closed) OMG MY MIL!!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i guess it depends on how short your fuse is. my mum is still friends with my brother’s exes, in real life and on FB. his wife is still friends with her exes too. exes (and their parents) on both sides were invited to their wedding. i’m real life and FB friends with exes of mine. some of them (and their parents) will be coming to my wedding. can you comfort yourself with reminding yourself that you won? that you ended up with him? i hope that your day gets better πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

First, I’d be annoyed if my MIL added my FI’s ex as a friend. It’s a bit weird… but I’m friends with some of my ex’s, so it would be a little bit “pot-kettle-black” for me to say anything to her. If would depend on if she is trying to bring the EX back into her sons life, or saying things about you/DH to her, etc. If any of that happens, I’d say something. 

As for football…. I make lots and lots of jokes about other people’s colleges and football teams when my team plays/beats them. It’s all in good fun. SO, it kind of depends on the team and what happened… If you’re an Alabama fan, I can see you being a bit raw over the loss and not finding jokes funny AT ALL. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Thanks Miss Starry Night! Actually she was the one who was a little raw because her “team” (DH’s alma mater) were the ones who lost!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do you have a strained relationship otherwise?  My friends and I are always ribbing each other about sports teams and stuff, it’s all in good fun.  And who cares who she’s facebook friends with?  Unless there’s something else going on, it doesn’t seem like she’s purposefully trying to poke you with a stick or anything.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I don’t think you need to be concerned about the Facebook thing.  Some people feel the need to befriend everyone they know. It doesn’t have to mean anything.

And even if they do still like each other and are still close, so what? He’s married to YOU!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Thanks all – I know you are right but the whole situation just really irritates me. I see DH’s ex every once in a while and she is always rude to me. And when we end up in some forced conversation it is always really awkward. I also think it is strange that she tried to FB my husband (but not me – we only ever see her on occasions my DH and I are attending together). It would be one thing if she was clearly over it and acting normal around us – but that definitely is not the case. I just get a funny feeling about her…..

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Is there a reason the OP’s name is different from the name of the poster responding??

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

@CaliSun23:@rosebud56:  You trust your husband, so I wouldn’t worry.  I’d casually bring it up with him and just say you’re uncomfortable with so much contact but that you trust him.  However, your MIL can be friends with whomever (I understand the weirdness, though).

Yeah, that’s weird…maybe the OP decided against her old alias?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t let it get to you.  FI and I are both still friends with many of our exes.  In fact, he’s inviting one ex and her husband to our wedding πŸ™‚  Eventually you get to a point where you realize that the past is the past and the present is what really matters.  Like a previous poster said, unless she’s trying to push them back together, then I don’t see the big deal. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

ah the perils of FB !!!!!  just remember it’s so much easier to be friends with someone online than it is in real life. and about the alma mater thing… everyone will pick on another school. if you don’t share the same alma mater, then its bound to happen.  just hit her with the one two punch and take a hit at HER alma mater!  πŸ˜€

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am still friends with my ex’s mother and sister and niece. They are coming to my upcoming wedding next month and my FI is fine with it. I was with my ex for 15 years and i couldn’t just pretend like i didn’t care about his family….i loved his family, they were MY family too for 15 years. Sorry, i think you are overreacting…i have my ex’s family on FB too and my FI doesn’t care.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@rosebud56:and made a joke about my alma mater

Well. Now that’s just too far!!! That would ruffle up my feathers too! πŸ˜› Is she a rival fan? Or just poking fun cuz of a loss?

Facebook means nothing, but I’d have to say it is wierd for a parent to add their son’s ex. I dunno….maybe she wanted more Farmville neighbors?

In any case, the ex can have the mother and you can have the son πŸ˜›

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Im confused about the OP and the name change also… Ok but either way sounds like my situation with FFIL.  Cant stand him.. and anything he says… logically i know its not fair to him…. but it sounds like it doesnt have anything to do with her actually poking fun at your alma mater and more so to do with the woman just irritates you from past experiences and its just one more thing no?? As for FB, I get why thats upsetting as well… but you cant tell her who to be friends with and unless shes trying to shove her down your or your DH’s throat then I wouldnt worry about it too much….

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

My guess on the OP name thing – some people create two accounts in order to post something personal – and it’s possible she didn’t know which account she was signed in with?

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