(Closed) OMG! Officiant basically quit!

posted 7 years ago in Secular
Post # 3
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Are you not wanting to mention God at all???

From what he wrote, it doesn’t come across to me that he quit. He just wants to have God in the ceremony somewhere. I am sure you could work something out with him, if you two talked it out.

Post # 5
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

If you want to omit everything religious from the ceremony, then yes, that is what it looks like. However, if you are fine with some, then it looks like he is willing to compormise.

Post # 6
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry but I can’t blame him.  You want a non-religious event, and he’s a minister.  I don’t see why he should have to compromise since he’s doing what he’s meant to do, I would find a justice of the peace or just go to the courthouse for something like this.

Post # 7
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree, it sounds like if you are wanting to ommit everything religious in the ceremony, then really you don’t need an actual minister, you could hire a justice of the peace to do it. If you don’t believe in God, you don’t need a member of God’s religious workers to do the ceremony. I would just do it by the right of a civil ceremony. Unless you are close to this specific person, then I could understand your reasoning behind wanting him to do it.

Post # 9
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

He cannot be faulted for sticking to his beliefs, just as it’s fair for you to stick to yours. You asked a Christian minister to perform a non-religious ceremony. I think he was justified in his response.

We have some varying degrees of Christianity in our families as well; we hired a non-denominational minister who does both secular and spiritual ceremonies. Is there someone like this in your area?

Post # 10
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If you ask a minister to officiate, it seems kind’ve unnatural to not have or expect a spiritual undertone in the service. I also feel like it puts the minister in an awkward position to have to set aside his beliefs because you don’t agree with them. Isn’t there someone more neutral you can find to officiate? After all, this guy devotes his life to god… he can’t pretend he doesn’t for two hours.

Post # 12
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You could always get one of your friends or relatives to get ordained online. Then they could perform the ceremony to your specifications.

Post # 15
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

The someone can get ordained online in just a couple of minutes. There are some stipulations that vary by state, so look those up online for your county. If you have to, call the clerk at the courthouse. They will know what you need to do. Where I live, the person performing the ceremony just has to be ordained and they have to sign the marraige certificate and file it with the county. The ceremony can be held in any county that the person is ordained in.

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