Post # 1
My SO and I were drinking with our closest friends (a married couple) and some neighbors last night and I totally dropped the “H” bomb. The wife of our friends and I were talking about how goofy our men were and as we were laughing about it I said, “Our husbands are so funny!”….. I didn’t even realize I’d said it for a moment, I’m not sure she caught it at all, but I quickly threw the word boyfriend into my next comment, and dear God I was so embarrassed. Our friends know we will be getting engaged later this year (I’m actually almost certain they are the only ones who he has told when, lol), but my goodness was I red!! lol
Anyone else done this before??
Post # 3
Prior to being engaged I acidentally referred to my siblings and my SO’s as our “spouses” when I meant to say “significant others”. Freudian slip? 🙂
Post # 4
I have referred to my husband as both my wife and my son in the last two weeks. So awkward!
Post # 5
I’ve never done this with my SO; I tend to be very aware of word choice, and rarely speak without thinking. But my SO often refers to me as his “wife” or to my sister or family members as his “siser-in-law” or his “mother/father-in-law.” Since he’s made it clear he has no intention of proposing any time soon, this is mostly just confusing and frustrating.
As an example: We don’t buy bread, I bake all of our bread. But I rarely eat it, so I’m really just baking bread for him, and he tosses out what he hasn’t eaten when it gets too dry. He had throat surgery several weeks ago and was unable to eat solid foods, so the remaining half bread I had baked before his surgery dried out and turned into a brick (you could have broken a window with this thing). I discovered it in the bread box yesterday when I went to put the fresh loaf for this week in the box, and he jokingly said, “Does this mean I get to have a ‘My wife’s cooking is so bad that…’ story?”
Post # 6
î’ve done it with my boyfriend… awkarrrrd…
We were talking about how much we wanted to leave his work on time and his boss didn’t let him because of various reasons, and we were fooling around and I said something like: “I will call at 6:30 pm, with some fake emergency, and you will say to your boss that your wife is sick that you need to go.”
I think he didn’t even notice it, but I was embarassed.
Post # 7
I am an Encore Bride, and over 50.
Truthfully, I think this is a BIGGER deal for younger Brides (the embarrassment factor) and perhaps also for those who live in countries where Common Law Marriage isn’t … well, that common.
Mr TTR and I both called each other spouses… long before we were married (sometimes it is just easier to do that than explain)… certainly so with our age element, in that most people assume we were Husband & Wife anyhow (I’m in my 50s, and he’s over 60)
And also in Canada, lots of people living together use Husband, Wife or Spouse to refer to their SO without even blinking an eye… because you never really know who are Common Law Married, and who are Married Married up here anyhow (unless they actually tell you)
Post # 8
Bahaha I have done this, in my final year of university I was having a meeting with my supervisor. It happened to be her wedding anniversary so we were chatting about that, she was asking me about MrWigeon and I referred to him as amy husband and consequentially got rather embarrassed!
Post # 9
I do it all the time, no one thinks its a bit deal. If we get into arguments I also joke about how I’m going to have to divorce him.
Post # 10
Errr… It can’t be as bad as calling your boyfriend’s mother “Mom” in front of his family. He hasn’t even proposed! Gah! Embarrassing much? 🙂 opsie.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I think I did that last weekend. But I can’t remember cause I really didn’t care XD when you’ve referred to your father as “babe” (criiinge) and your BF as dad nothing will ever quite seem as terrible XD
Post # 12
I also always refer to MrWigeon’s parents as my in-laws, just out of habit and they do feel like my family. It has only ever been questioned once..!
Post # 13
DH called me his wife when we were just dating.
Ironically, now that we’re actually married, he refers to me on accident sometimes as his “girlfriend”- that really embarrasses him, but I think it’s hilarious.
Post # 14
I have never done it but he’s called me his wife plenty of times. I’m super bitchy about it so I always correct him to girlfriend, which always gets me “the look” from him and I just shrug. If he wants the titles he needs to make it happen.
(can you tell I’m in a shitty ass mood today?! lol)
Post # 15
@Trojansgirl: We call eachother silly variations on “wife” and “husband” (hubby, etc) but don’t introduce eachother as such. So yeah, I guess outside parties have heard me call him “hubby”.
Post # 16
@Purplejo: I think I’m lucky in that area. The day me and boyfriend moved in together, his mother comes to me and says I can call her whatever I feel confortable with, including mom.
😛 I can’t call her mom… mom it’s my mom. XD But I can see the embarassment you felt.