(Closed) OMG someone help I'm ready to wear a paper bag!!!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Take the opportunity to go with your mom!! You sounded excited about it originally, I would not let someone else’s opinions or judgements sway you. Go look, and tell your mom, if you don’t find anything, you are sticking with your original dress. You deserve to get something that you really want though. So do whatever you have to do to get that.

Post # 4
662 posts
Busy bee

I think you should go with your mom and at least try on dresses together.  I think it’s ridiculous for someone to try to force you to hire a dress.  That’s just silly to say “well since I did it this way you HAVE to too”.  It sort of sounds to me like your Future Mother-In-Law is starting to have a little bit of anxiety about the wedding.  If you are used to being able to communicate with her, I’d say you should sit her down at a cafe or something and have an open honest talk about your expectations.  If you don’t see where she is at and let her know where you are at you might have these blow ups over more than just the dress.

Post # 5
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I would do whatever YOU want to do.

Want a new dress? Go get one with your mum. It’s your wedding not your FMILs

Post # 6
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

Ergh! geeeeze some people!!! you shouldn’t wear that first dress. you will look at photos and think why didnt i just do what i wanted. as you said you only get one wedding. there are things i wish i had done because really you only get one day. And honestly your mum nly gets one chance to do this with you. Please understand her perspective, its obviously something she has been looking forward to forever. and its just been ripped out from underneath her. I think your FIL’s need to step back and understand that if this is what you and your mum want to do than that is up to the two of you.NO ONe ELSE. i think you are backing out. but dont. and they will bring it up because they never got to have it.. It honestly sounds like jealousy from SIL and Mother-In-Law.


Dont do it for your mum. do it for you! you deserve the wedding that you want! dont let someone else ruin or dictate to what you have. its not their wedding. Dont let them make you feel like you dont deserve anything less than perfect!

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