Post # 1
I was CONVINCED that my SO bought a ring I had picked out.
We went shopping with another couple who are married. The wife and I ran off to a jewelry store, where she and I found a beautiful engagement ring at Zales. She took a picture of it and sent it to my SO. Cringe.
Later, the SO disappeared (he said he was going to put the bags in the car) only to reappear 20 minutes later with all bags in hand. Hmm.
When we were putting the goods away, I happened to see a small black Zales bag hidden in another bag. OMG. He went back and got the ring. I pretended not to notice it and busied myself with other things. He quickly put the bag in a secret spot.
I started to get excited, having thoughts of getting engaged, excited that we were finally taking this step, and wondering WHEN it would happen. Maybe at the zoo tomorrow???
After dinner that same day, my SO presented me with a beautiful diamond bracelet. Oh. That’s not what I was expecting.
I found the recipt from Zales later. He definitely just bought a bracelet and nothing else.
A part of me is relieved because I’d rather get a ring from an antique store or a moissanite. Nothing against Zales (lots of my friends have rings from there and they are beyond beautiful), just my personal preference.
The other part of me is devistated and feeling quite stupid. I just feel like this is never going to happen. I know I need to talk to the SO, but not really sure how to approach this topic again without getting to the pushy point.
Post # 3
@BadaBingBling: I know that feeling. I thought for sure Darling Husband was going to ask me to marry him one Christmas. We had even kind of talked about it. So when I opened my present and it was a diamond heart pendant instead of a diamond ring, I was devastated. I didn’t know how to respond… It was so hard to pretend I wasn’t disappointed all day. I had to wait longer, but he did eventually ask.
I don’t have any advice…just sending you some support. It will happen when the time is right for both of you.
Post # 4
Been there, done that…
We had talked rings, we had talked wedding, he knew I was expecting it.
He walked into my house on Christmas morning carrying a bag from the jewelry store. He put it aside until we were going to exchange gifts. We sit down and he tells me he wants to go last. He’s giddy…Fine – I gave him his presents.
He finally hands me the jewerly store bag and I look inside (heart racing). It’s a small flat box? Hmmm…Must be a new way to box rings. I open the box…
It’s a beautiful necklace.
Really, the necklace is very pretty. I love it, but it’s totally not what I was expecting. I tried to be happy, but I was disappointed.
He made me wait another year until he actually proposed the following February!
Post # 5
Yup, know the feeling. Went on a romantic vacation with Fiance, and thought for sure he was going to propose. I was expecting it almost every day/moment of the trip, and on the flight home I was in a pretty sour mood. Trust me though, when the timing’s right it’ll happen 😉
Post # 6
Can I just give you three a GIANT thank you?! I find comfort in all of your stores! I was so darn frustrated, disappointed and felt extremely silly for completely getting my hopes up. I know false alarms aren’t an uncommon thing, but this was just such a let down. I was at a loss for words.
It’s a beautiful bracelet, but it doesn’t fit. We’re going to the store today to add a link. Idk how he thought I would fit into the thing. It’s the same size as an average hair tie without the stretchy. Tiny! But maybe once we hit the stores, I can look at the rings? Gah! It’s such a delicate situation!
Post # 7
How long have you guys been together? My Fiance and I have been together for many years, and after our vacation together (and my dashed hopes!) I decided that it was time to have a talk! I didn’t want to broach the subject earlier because I didn’t want to pressure him in any way. However, after talking with my aunt, she made me realize that marriage is a very serious decision and that maybe talking about it and our expectations was a good thing (and something that wouldn’t ‘ruin’ a surprise). It is a delicate situatioun though, I agree. You don’t want to pressure the guy, but at the same time, I think it’s acceptable to discuss what your intentions are for the future, where you see yourselves, what you expect, etc. Good luck and enjoy your new bracelet! 🙂
Post # 8
aww, certainly been there!
New Years Eve- was 200% sure he was going to propose, he had been acting beyond weird all night and was sneaking away with his best friend (male) to “talk” about something quite a few times that night.
He didn’t propose and got plastered and blacked out shortly after midnight. Lets just say I wasn’t too pleased anymore. haha
BUT! he did plan an amazing proposal for a few months later, and I’m more than glad that it didn’t happen on NYE when the fireworks went off over Niagra Falls.
Your time will come! Have a small talk with him, see where it leads.
Post # 9
Wow, i would be upset too, but who knows he might be trying to trick you by showing you the receipt and somewhere else he has the ” second” purchase that he did separately ….does he know that you’re expecting an e ring soon?
Post # 10
@BadaBingBling: …. you need a sound effect for the ending, like a “wha wha wha whaaaa” because that BLOWS! 🙁
I’m so sorry you feel so let down, I know how that happens and I remember well how disheartening it is. *hug*
Post # 11
it will happen, dont worry! I would not mention anything, do not push the more you talk about it the longer it will take! he wants to surprise you im sure and does not want to feel pushed (at least this is how most men feel)
Post # 12
Guys can be a little clueless. A coworkers girlfriend had been giving him some big hints about wanting a ring and we had to tell him that whatever he got her for Christmas, it should not be in a small jewelry box (unless it was a ring of course)!
Post # 13
I’m sorry 🙁 I know that feeling too.. I had one of those moments this past Christmas .. I’m trying hard to not be bitter too
Post # 14
Been there, done that! Can’t even count how many times I had convinced myself that Darling Husband had the ring and was going to propose. I tortured myself for months!! Waiting SUCKS!
Post # 15
Can I just add, what a lovely guy you have there to treat you to a diamond ring spontaneously!!!!!! Maybe that should be my first step, engagement ring second…
Post # 16
whooooops, I am ring obsessed!I meant he got you a diamond bracelet….