(Closed) OMG …… waiting is so HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know how you feel!  You can always come here and commiseration until you get engaged!  My best advice is to not talk to him about getting engaged, make him tihnk for forgot!

Post # 5
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You’re welcome!  I really do think that guys are dumb enough to think that we completley forgot about engagements if we don’t talk about it!  When I was waiting, whenever I talked about it, my husband would tease me about it and make it worse!

Post # 6
Member
865 posts
Busy bee

i definitely know how you feel! and its not even going to come soon for me, sigh.  the BF makes it seem like hes going to pop the question but then i realize it would be totally inpractical if he did. he just says he will “when the time is right”. so until th time “is right” i have to take the advice from these ladies here on WB and enjoy my “girlfriendhood.

Post # 8
Member
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

FI and I had both of our families in town for Thanksgiving last year and EVERYONE I talked to was SURE he was going to propose.  And then he didn’t.  We headed out to Tahoe for a big elaborate ski trip just before Xmas and again, everyone was sure he would propose and again he didn’t.

Spring brought a few arguements about “where this was all going” but by the summer all the pressure I’d felt had somehow disappeared.  I knew we’d eventually get married, things were going so great and I was happy just to have him in my life.  We had a quick weekend trip to DC planned for June, and it never once occured to me to freak out about whether he’d propose.  And then he did=)

 

Post # 9
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1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Welcome to the club!  We are going to a wizards game the day after new years; I hope he doesn’t propose on the jumbotron or something.  Me no likey.

Post # 10
Member
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I know how you feel too Sherma!  My FH had me pick out my ring the week of Christmas (last year) and of course I was expecting a proposal on Christmas day.  BUT, it didn’t happen!  It finally happened 2 months later when we were on vacation and it was THE perfect proposal!  DOn’t worry… it’ll happen when it happen and it will be wonderful no matter what!

Post # 11
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with MissAasB – just be patient! I was super anxious for about six weeks until FH proposed. I was constantly on edge, thinking when is it going to be? Why doesn’t he just do it already? The funny thing about though, is that when he does actually propose, you somehow immediately forget all of the anxiousness and worry that you were experiencing before.

It’s so hard to wait for something that you really have no control over – but you will feel a million times better if you do allow him to propose to him the way he wants to. You don’t want to start off your engagement with regret over pushing him to propose sooner than he planned to!

Just vent here whenever you feel yourself wanting to vent to him!

Post # 12
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26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ugh, try having a BF who shows no emotions whatsoever.  I know he truly loves me and he has said in the past he plans(planned) to ask around Christmas but that was after a large argument on a whole different subject (his wrongdoing..lol).

So now that the holidays are here, I have had 2 separate proposal dreams!  When I mention them to him, he says “nothing”.  He has said he wants it to be a surprise and doesn’t want me to know anything.  I don’t know how to react.  I am getting to the point now were I just don’t know if I wanna be excited for it since it doesn’t seem like he is.  Do they realize that they can push us away going the distance to be too secretive (sp?)

Post # 13
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26 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Let me just add that this has nothing to do with when I want him to propose, it could be next year, it’s just that he will not even say a word about it.

The last thing I want is for him to propose because he felt like he had to, but HE was the one who originally brought up marriage and had the jeweler take my ring size.  Any girl would want to talk about it, not necessarily push it.

Post # 14
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611 posts
Busy bee

I know exactly how you feel!!! BF and I went shopping months ago so I have been on pins and needles ever since. He keeps telling me that it’s going to happen soon but that doesn’t help. However last night he talked to his father since it was our 1 year anniversary and got his blessing so I am ecstatic right now!!! He said that he doesn’t want to ask my parents until he has the ring because he wants to show it to them first. I can’t even describe how excited I am! Just be patient and keep talking to us! We will always be here to listen!

Post # 16
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You want it to come when you least expect it anyways, i know a few who rushed their BF’s into it and actually knew when he was going to do it.  I guess good things come when you wait, i waited 3 yrs!

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