Post # 1
Think that they are entitled to the universe bending and bowing to their every whim before, during, and after their weddings??? Ladies, we get ONE day! That’s it! We don’t get to boss people around, dress up other adults like they are our Barbie Dolls, or throw tantrums when something detracts from the ETERNAL spotlight that apparently should be shining on us from engagement to honeymoon.
I just go crazy reading some of these posts about the silliest things. People fighting with friends and family over ego-laced dramas, holding lifetime judgements about someone who missed the etiquette boat, being control freaks and then wanting the rest of us to back them up when the universe turns on them…. Bride-brain is the WORST!!!
I get it, I’m planning a wedding, too. It’s at times stressful, trying, and occassionally delicate. I’m just so over the pettiness and sense of entitlement and judgement some woman pass on other people. One day, ladies, we get ONE day!
Post # 2
Ha ha, wow, that’s been building up in you!
I do see the occasional post here that makes me think that particular bride needs to get a grip, but it’s good to keep perspective that the VAST majority of ladies I know in real life and online are totally respectful, nice, caring people when planning their weddings.
But the outliers can be a little jaw dropping 😀
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
coffeedrinker: It is true, but I can see where some can be upset if it seems like someone is trying to one up them. That could be how the bride with the friend’s proposal felt. She didn’t really say that.
It would depend on who the person was and if they went around bragging about it to everyone the whole time.
I have cousin, who is like a sister, if she were single and to get proposed on my wedding “weekend” (and I liked her FI) I would be thrilled. I also know that she would keep it pretty hush, hush until after my wedding.
My future SIL on the other hand, I know it would be to try and one up me, and more so her brother, so I would be highly upset. But you cant expect much better from people who stay so drunk and high that they do things like pass out and let their 2 year old run out onto the highway naked. ANYWAY, I can see both sides.
Post # 4
cbgg: It isn’t just from here that makes me think this, either. I was in line at the store the other day and overheard a bride on her phone telling someone, “Well, if they get me anything that’s not on the registry, I want a receipt so I can return it”. And at the hairdresser with a girl planning her wedding saying she wished her BFF waited until after her wedding to “pop out a screaming baby because she’ll never lose all that baby fat in time”.
Post # 5
I’m not even a fan of the whole *you get one day* mind set. It rubs me the wrong way since it is still a huge sense of entitlement. It boils down to the few minutes of the vows that legally need to be said. That’s it. And unfortunately, plenty of people aren’t even entitled to that. I can’t imagine how they feel about brides going on and on about how they deserve/are entitled to their *one day*.
Post # 6
I sooooo am with you on this feeling. I’ve never been more terrified to do something wrong than since I started reading WeddingBee!! I think I’m a pretty nice person and really chill and reasonable, but apparently there’s just so many ways to offend people! Haha.
Post # 7
I agree but I really don’t care what other do. I actually find it somewhat entertaining to read some of the ridiculous threads on here where the bride is all worked up over RSVPs, bridesmaids, the ultimate perfect dress, not getting perfect parties/showers, not wanting others to steal their attention with a proposal or babies, etc. It is hilarious and don’t forget the etiquette police! Cracks. Me. Up.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
I was actually kind of embarrassed by all the attention I got on my wedding day. I bent over backwards to make sure people were happy with things that might be painful experiences for them, such as the process of choosing of the bridesmaids dresses. for everyone involved in my wedding, I was extra nice to them during, and made sure my appreciation was known after.
there is definitely a “OMG it’s MY day” stereotype of brides, which actually makes me hesitate to even admit to people that I’m a member of weddingbee.
Post # 9
I think as hostess, alon with my FI, of my wedding, it is my job to make sure my guests have a nice time. I am just not at all into the whole it’s my day thing. The beauty of being and older, encore bride is perspective!
Post # 10
I cringe when people call it “your special day” it’s weird and uncomfortable lol I’m an introvert at heart so I’m really anxious about being the bride but it should be alright. I’m hoping when brides post crazy things on here it’s just temporary stress insanity. There are also A LOT of really nice ladies here though 🙂
Post # 11
Songstress_7: Hahah I’m an introvert, too. I’m just gonna be like ‘please don’t look at me!’ all day. Lol.
Post # 12
Lisasaurusrex: hahaha veil over the face
Post # 13
Heh…I don’t get it either. I am very low key and this wedding, honestly I don’t care so long as my parents, his parents and my FI show up and we both say yes. The rest…it’s all frills and fancy and I don’t care 🙂
Post # 14
coffeedrinker: So true! It doesn’t necessarily annoy me though, in fact I find it kind of amusing when brides act self-centered. I actually enjoy watching the show Bridezillas and take mental note to not sweat the small stuff myself, but I do admit, sometimes it is hard because you just want the day to be “perfect”
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
High-five, OP. You pretty much nailed it.