- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
So my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been dating for a little under a year. We pretty much knew right away (I am in my late-ish 20’s and he is approaching 30), but I’m totally ready to go while he has a few mild goals to achieve first. I really think this is guy speak for “I want to be sure”, which is fine.
I want a longer engagement and he has been acting a little funny lately. Aside from the comments about rings and marriage in general (i.e. “X” amount is a great price for a diamond, but you need to make sure it meets “Y” criteria), he’s completely dropped our usual musings of engaged life. My mother emailed me some information about a photographer whom she had said she would like us to consider for our wedding – and I got upset because she was putting the cart before the horse. I mentioned it to my Boyfriend or Best Friend, who said “For the wedding that is X amount and 6 months away?”.
But I’m starting to think maybe it is happening on this weekend getaway trip in April he is insisting on. I don’t really want to go because it isn’t a location I feel is worth the money, but he is paying and he keeps telling me he wants me to be excited for it. I don’t want to get my hopes up, but for some reason I have this sort of “gut” feeling about the trip. We have never looked at rings before but he has a general idea about what I like. We went to our first jewelry store together last night but I purposefully did not look at the engagement rings, and he lingered for a moment there but didn’t say anything.
If I ask in a concerned way about our future, he sort of gets this smile on his face and says “everything will be okay”. I know if I outright asked about an engagement he would get annoyed, so as difficult as it is I am not saying ANYTHING.
I mean, we went from talking about engagement to NOT talking about it at all, avoiding all things wedding.