Post # 1
We’ve been sending out our invitations little by little for the last 2 weeks. This Sunday, we delivered what was supposed to be the last batch of invites that were for FI’s parents guests. No problem right? WRONG.
FI’s parents called him at work completely freaked out because half their guest list was missing! HALF! WTF?! I’m still investigating to figure out what happened and where how we only got 50% of their list but as far as we’re concerned, it’s in the invitation black hole. :'(
Problem is we have a master guest list that was created in Google Docs that our parents, Fiance, and I have access to. We printed these invites based on this master list. So, when the invitees of FI’s parents were input, they only input about 35 guests (who we printed invitations for). But when we saw our number was surprisingly low, Fiance, my mom, and I added more people from our “B” and “C” list that we thought we wouldn’t be able to invite. Now we’re 45 people over. 🙁
This changes everything, espeically our budget. Freaking out over here. Anyone have words of wisdom?
Post # 3
Wait… the 35 people were the last you heard from your future family? I’m just making sure I’m not confused, you added more because you figured they would only have this many guests? Did they add more you did not know of after you had discussed this?
If you only sent out the 35 and they wanted more and you cannot afford to invite more….. stick to your guns. I’m sorry this happened and hope I am not misunderstanding this, but that’s all you can really do in my opinion. If FF added more guests you could not afford, they should offer to pay for them. Either way, I’m really sorry you’re going through this!
Post # 4
@SimplyChic11: It sounds like a technical glitch made the Father-In-Law
s think they had uploaded all of their names, but they actually hadnt. OP thought the list looked a little short, but went with it and added more people from a B list so to speak.
ACK! This is really a predicament. You can
t uninvite the people you have already invited, even if you wouldnt have invited them in the first place. I
m sorry, I really dont have any suggestions. Unless your Father-In-Law
s are willing to help out with the cost of their technical error, I cant see how you can get out of it without just enlarging your guest list.
Post # 5
Agree with all of the above. If u cant afford to invite the people that didnt end up on the list,then theres nothing u can do about it. Tell them sorry, but unless they can pay,then u have to say no. U cant afford what u cant afford.Its as simple as that. Its not rude, its just a fact.
Post # 6
Don’t forget that not everyone will come! Did you send out RSVP cards? If I was you I would send out the other invites and if you did send out RSVP cards as they come back you will have a better idea of how many people you will have there!!
Post # 7
Any chance the Future In-Laws could help y’all out since it’s their guests that are breaking your budget? Just a thought…
Post # 8
AHH ok. Eek that’s crazy.
I agree you cannot un-invite people. I would get together with your FIL’s and explain what happened and how it affects the budget. 🙁
Post # 9
Thanks all for the advice. We’re definitely talking to the FIL’s after work, they’re freaking us out/arguing/being a little difficult and is adding a lot of stress to the situation which made me run to the hive for help ASAP.
Yes, Future In-Laws are not too good with technology and I think they didn’t save the rest of their list or something. I guess going with a computerized spread sheet wasn’t the best idea, my bad on that one. -__-
Fiance and I agreed that we’d be calling those that we’ve already sent invites to and “confirm they received their invitation” and then see if we can find out whether they are planning to come or not.
My parents also agreed to pay extra for their “B” list guests that were added so that FIL’s don’t get mad. Thank goodness, but can’t help but feel guilty. Ugh!
Post # 10
@kissa2727: Let your FH handle the conversation; they’re his parents remember! 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 11
Ask the Future In-Laws to prioritize their list by importance, and have those invitations on standby as soon as the No’s start rolling in. If you can, try to squeeze in maybe 5 of their important people, as a gesture…
Would they be willing to pitch in to increase the numbers?