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I don't care about the wedding as much! Or the dress!
But the diamond? Yep! I want a big, friggin' diamond! I am not ashamed!
So join in chorus or berate me! :P
What about you? What do YOU want?
I'm envisioning a 1.5 to 2 carat pear w/pear sidestones, and a 5 stone wedding band! OR the *only* semi-designer ring setting I adore, the Nelson calla-cut diamond butterfly ring with the halo setting (and a 1-1.5 carat round).
If you want a big shining bling on your right finger, you deserve it. Who am I or anyone else to judge you for wanting what you want? You go girl is what I say! Say what you want and you'll get it. Me, I want the rose gold setting with a pink sapphire center stone. Mister thought I was the 2 carat Tiffany diamond ring girl. I do love me some Tiffany jewlery and that should explain is train of thought. But, nope, I just want something simple. Your idea sounds beautiful though.
Well I have my ring but before he gave it to me I swore that size didn't matter and a small stone was fine but now that I have my 1+ct. ring I LOVE IT and couldn't imagine anything different :-)
lol. i'll most likely be getting a halo style ring either platinum or paladium [white gold is also an option but neither one of us is too exicted about the prospect of having to get the ring redipped to maintain the color], not sure what shape though. and i think it'll be 1 carat and less. 1.25 carat looked okay but 1.5 was pushing it into garish looking territory on my hand.
there was this one halo set ring that looked kind of like a buckle...it's hard to describe but they nicknamed it the buckle ring. haha, well my guy REALLY loved that one so i think i might get a similar ring like that [he did mention in passing that the store didn't have it anymore and actually pouted!]
lol! i wanted a bigger diamond but didn't want to wait forever to get it, so i went with a 3 stone ring with channel set diamonds on the band to get that extra SPARKLE :) good on you for knowing what you want and not feeling bad about it!!
Welllll, everyone is different, and I am going to be the voice of dissent here! I knew that if I was with someone who thought it was ok to spend more than $2000 on a piece of metal, that we did not share the same priorities. I gave my FI a $1500 cap. I am very happy with my ring and even happier he didn't go into debt!
I don't think anyone should necessary judge your desire for a huge ring. If he can afford it comfortably, go for it. I so understand wanting something you love since you'll be wearing it for a long time. I just never wanted to stress my guy out by making a declaration as to what size was necessary. I think in the end you'll love it regardless of what it looks like because its YOUR ring and he put his all into getting it for you and then giving it to you (which I've heard is stressful lol).
Quite frankly my dear, I don't give a damn about diamonds! They're the pop stars of the gem world; sparkly and shiny, but lacking in personality and found everywhere. I guess that makes me a hippy. But a happy hippy. :)
I loooove emeralds. I've been really drawn to three stone rings lately, and prefer diamonds as accents/halos/pave bands.
I don't think wants are (hardly) every inappropriate, but priorities might be. Wanting a big ol' ring? Not a problem. Making your FI go far into debt and jeaopardizing your futures to get it? Not good.
As long as he can afford it, I see no problem with it. :)
i think it depends on where you are in your life. i was a girl that demanded 2 carats or better (and i got it, too bad it was from the wrong guy lol)... now i would LOVE the tiffany legacy aquamarine or amethyst, but i'd KILL M if he spent that much on it. i would much rather him get me a great gemstone ring with substantial size, and use the rest on advertising for either of our businesses. the one i'm looking at is almost 3 carats (gemstone) and costs less than 200 bucks, so my kind of bling AND my kind of price!!!
also mmmtacos if you don't care about a wedding, which is at least 3,000 for the most modest type, that gives you more size on your ring, you know?
I wanted a "bigun" and luckily my FI felt that I deserved one and he could afford to provide it. If he wasn't able to afford it easily...I would have been happy with whatever he got me.
@hellohellohello - I so agree with you. I wouldn't do well with someone okay with spending $10k on an engagement ring. I would insist on taking it back and getting something more affordable. Especially since I know mister can't afford it. Also, I'd think about him getting into debt for the ring and me actually paying the bill during our marriage. Nope... been there done that. Even if he could afford to pay cash for a $10k or more ring, I would not feel comfortable with him doing that. I make pretty decent money, but I am extremely frugal. So frugal, my family calls me Cheapo! I save like 30% (after 401k and ira contributions, so it might be more like 45%) of my income and if Mister is spending like that, he is not saving at the levels I think my husband should. So, I totally am with you on this, "spend more than $2000 on a piece of metal, that we did not share the same priorities."
True! I am not one of the "venue" girls out here in the city for sure. Especially after seeing how much it would cost ($25K, anyone?) for the best places in the city. PLUS catering. PLUS silverware rental. SILVERWARE RENTAL!
We are supposed to have a small wedding (under 100 people) anyhow - and it won't be for a number of years as I want a long engagement (I've waited so long for the right guy - I want to really live this moment!).
And in terms of money - I would never in a million years ask for someone which wasn't easily affordable. In fact - I've recently told the BF that I would even pay for part of my ring or setting! Thankfully for the moment, we're in a good situation. And at the VERY worst moment, if I needed to sell it for us to stay afloat, I could get a good amount.
But I think aside from bragging rights (I lived in Dallas for a few years, but I think the glittery-glam still stayed), I want to have an heirloom diamond to pass down to our child or grandchildren. :)
@mmmtacos: GO BIG OR GO HOME LOL!!! i think that applies for most of us southern gals!!
I wanted - and got - a big ring. Nine carats, to be exact.
Before any of you scream and pass out...it's an amethyst, and worth well under a grand. I like my rocks big, but diamonds are my mom's thing, not mine.
@redtartan: my kind of girl!! my mom and i have discussed how diamonds are here and gemstones are me, i like my gemstones accented with diamonds, but i like honker gemstones!!!
I don't think I ever really imagined what I wanted as my ring until my husband and I started to search-I think it just depends on what you and your FI want to do- can you afford to have a bigger ring? Or is it just something you dream of and want at any cost. You have to make it make sense for you two and your lifestyle and what things take priority over others.
For him, it was about what he wanted to give to me- and he chose my dream ring, a round 2.04 carat center stone, with a .3 carat side stone on each side with 10 pave cascading stones down the side. And when we got married we added 1/2 carat bands to each side. I about died when he pulled it out of his pocket the 2008 new year's eve he proposed. It was the best way I couldve ever imagine ending 2007 and starting a new year with my lifetime love. And finally completeing the set for our wedding rings was memorable.
Im not going to complain about mine- but you have to make sure what you want isnt something that will put you into debt.
@91011Bride... Thanks, glad I am not the only one! I was at a party once before I got engaged and these friends of a friend told me that I should demand a MINIMUM of $10K engagement ring! I was so appalled! Esp. since at the time FI & I were each making $40K per year!! Can you imagine ONE FOURTH of your yearly pre-tax salary going to a measley ring! Oh man! I guess the important thing here is that as long as you and your future husband are in agreement about these things, that is what matters.
@RedTartan: A 9 carat amethyst? That is fabulous! Amethyst is my birth stone and I own quite a few pieces, but not a 9 carat piece. I likey! Pictures PLEASE!
I wanted a medium-to-large one, and I got it! I'm not ashamed. Mr. MJ wanted me to have it, we could afford it without debt, and I get compliments on it all the time.
I ain't sayin' you a gold digger... 
@ 91011Bride - my Mom did that!! My Dad proposed with a huge solitare ring just shy of 3 carats. Of course my mom said Yes but she also said she wasn't lugging that thing around her whole life! LOL The ring she got is a little over 1c. and she used the balance of the money to pay for their honeymoon. She may be a pain in the @$$ but she's a smart cookie my Mom. ;)
When FI & I were at the stage of talking about rings, he still wasn't sure how much they should cost. I told him it's usually around $4-6 and if he spends more than $8 I'd KILL him & say no. hahaha!
@91011Bride: Here you go!
P.S. It's not quite as huge as it sounds. Much of the carat weight is in the stone's depth.
@redtartan: try to go to tinypic.com to upload it! i'm curious as well!!
I thought i wanted a big honkin solitaire princess cut diamond engagement ring...and after going ring shopping and looking around and actually trying on the rings...we both decided that they just arent "me". I instead chose a more modest three stone princess cut and am anxiously waiting to get it! Even though it prob wont be until around march of next year! So to each her own on this one...whatever makes you most happy and comfortable without breaking the bank i say go for it!
I say if he can afford it and wants to get you a big ole' diamond...DO IT!
I have always said 3+ carats - and guess what I love it now that I have it! If you want a big one then go for it! You are the one who has to wear it so you better like it. I had a friend who said oh anything will do (but was looking at rings that were 2+ carats) and her FI got her a 1 cttw . Lets just say she was not very happy. :(
As people above have stated, there is nothing wrong with wanting a large ring if your FI can afford it.
Minutiae - I love emeralds too, but I wanted to warn you that it is a softer stone, and therefore not recommended for jewelry that you will wear every day. Here is an article about the types of cuts that will be more long lasting for an emerald ring: http://www.articlenews.co.uk/2009/can-i-wear-an-emerald-ring-everyday/
I'd like a big one, but I would feel bad with him spending over $2K. I don't want him to spend that much on it, although the ones he has looked at, are about $2K. 
I like mine. It's a half carat. Anything bigger than that on me looks like crap. = ( But mine is delicate and pretty!
I have a perfect little 1 diamond solitaire for my e-ring - and for my wedding ring I'm getting an "enhancer" band which "hugs" my e-ring. sorta like this only yellow gold.
The great thing is that it's under 1k! I absolutely am NOT a big-ring kind of girl or an expensive ring girl either...to go over $1000 would be rediculous.
Oh, I know when you mean!
When we went ring shopping, I always said I wanted 2 carats, no more, no less. And that's exactly what I got! Also, my wedding band is a 1/2 ctw half infinity band, so I'll end up with a solid 2 1/2 post wedding, which is perfect for me.
The thing is regarding my engagement ring, I really thought 2 carats was pretty standard, until I started noticing everyone else's rings and I've come to realize that the average carat weight is 1 or less! Oh well, either way, I'm more than happy with my ring and wouldn't change it for the world!
i want a huge diamond ring too! but my FI can't afford it :P so i'm just as happy wiht the ring he got me.
I wish I knew what size I want! We haven't gone ring shopping yet, but since I'm so mean to my hands, I get the feeling anything more than 1 carat will be dangerous. I'd hit it on something and knock the setting loose! But we'll see.
Mine is .63 ct for the center stone -- PERFECTION! for me :) I am left handed and like to bang my hand on everything! It's super blingy though and I get sooo many comments on how different it is. It has 35 diamonds... :) I just counted...not sure if the micro-pave diamonds "count" because the weight of them is next to air...but I am going to count them. :)
I think big rings are awesome as long as it's not a financial strain on anyone to get them. And I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting a beautiful ring, whether it be big or small. :)
That said, I probably will never own a huge ring, which to me is like 2 carats or larger. I can't justify spending a ton of something that is so expensive because of one company. But, more power to anyone who wants one. They are very pretty!
My ring isn't big but It is very good quaity, It is .92ct D colour SI1 and cost $8000. The colour, clarity and cut were important to me. I inherited my Mum's ring which has been insured for $3000 and bigger and it looks really yellow compared to mine.
Big ring fan here! I always said I wanted a 2 carat center stone and ended up with a 2.16 in a halo setting. I have long fingers and always liked the look of that size, in any stone, on my hand. I also always said I would be happy to pay for part of my ring but as it happened I didn't need to. We are both older and he was able to pay for the whole thing without going into debt. Some days I look at it and think, "Man alive, we could have bought a car for that much money". But I don't regret it one bit, especially since I will wear it everyday for the rest of my life and expect it to be passed down after that.
I didnt really care WHAT I got...but DH did gooood and got me a 2.1 carat cushion in a pave band. I love it. Nobody should judge you for that! He didnt go into debt to pay for it, it is what it is.
And now you have that Kanye song stuck in my head lol
@professorbee: I'm well aware. I actually made a post on my blog about it a few weeks ago. :)
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