On a scale of 1 to 10, how tacky is this?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: On a scale of 1 to 10, how tacky is this REALLY?
    1 - The LEAST tacky : (91 votes)
    19 %
    2 : (35 votes)
    7 %
    3 : (69 votes)
    14 %
    4 : (29 votes)
    6 %
    5 : (62 votes)
    13 %
    6 : (14 votes)
    3 %
    7 : (34 votes)
    7 %
    8 : (44 votes)
    9 %
    9 : (24 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    1312 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

    Whoever is throwing your shower can send along info…I wouldn’t personally but I know that different rules apply to different situations.  I like the idea of placing a link to your wedding website that has registry info available on it for those who are looking

    Post # 4
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @CarolinaCola:  I’m not doing it, but most of the weddings I’ve been to where the couple is registered they have included a card.  People have been asking so we’ve been telling them.  Our parents know and it will be on our wedding website.  I voted a 5 – I think it kind of depends on how it’s done.  I personally find the little cards (like 2″ square) that are given out by the popular store here aren’t that bad, but the poems and things that some people do, I find to be in poor taste – not all, just some.

    Post # 5
    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I know you’re not supposed to, but it doesn’t seem that bad. As a guest, I’d appreciate it.

    As a bride, I’m not doing it just because I don’t want to get crap for it…but we will have an insert about our wedding website, and the registry info will be there.

    Post # 6
    863 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @CarolinaCola:  I think there is an easy way around this – include a link to your wedding website on your invitation and post your registry infor there. No tackiness. 

    Post # 8
    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    @CarolinaCola:  Why not put a link to your wedding website (which has a link to your registry among other things) instead of a direct link to your registry?  I feel like this is a much better option personally.

    ETA: Oh, you don’t have a website…well now you do have a good reason to have one! LOL!  Just stick some photos up on it and a description of the proposal and you’re good to go.  It doesn’t have to be super fancy or anything.

    Post # 10
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Ruby-Redshoes:  +1.

    My wedding website was listed on the back of our invites (and STD cards) and that worked well.

    Post # 11
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @CarolinaCola:  I know it’s against traditional etiquette, but Bed Bath & Beyond printed those out specifically for us on perforated paper for that purpose.  I will probably hand them off to the ladies hosting my shower and let them do what the want with them. 

    Post # 12
    2687 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

    @CarolinaCola:  I’m under the umbrella of “who gives a shit?”… you have a registry, there’s no point in hiding it. Whether you tell people or they find out about it through other people, what’s the difference? Personally, if I was a guest, I’d rather you just tell me directly with my invitation. Why do we need the beat around the bush bullshit? 

    Post # 13
    6048 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    If it’s tha small… word of mouth should be just fine.  Before wedding websites word of mouth worked pretty well. 

    Post # 14
    2103 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @CarolinaCola:  I like weddings. I like being invited. I do NOT like hunting around for information. Just put in the damn card and make things easier for people like me. I have family in Washington State, Connecticut, Tennessee, England and Greece. “Word of mouth” will not travel as fast as a little card in my case.

    If someone thinks it’s tacky, they don’t have to come. 

    Post # 15
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @CarolinaCola:  the registry info is given to whoever is throwing the shower. What I did was give my registry info to one of my BMs and told them to give it to whoever is throwing the shower. 

    I wanted to be surprised

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