Post # 1
What is it with the “unofficially engaged” thing? Ugh!! My boyfriend? Fiance? Future Husband? and I decided we wanted to get married early on in our relationship…..like 4 months in. There was no official proposal, but we talked to our parents, went ring shopping, went venue shopping…talked about everything…he even bought me the cutest cake topper for Christmas last year.
Then the market really tanked. He’s a financial advisor working on commissions and it really sent him for a loop. It was so bad that his parents were paying his rent. He and his family decided that it was not the time to get married. (even though my parents were/would/will take care of 85% of the budget). So everything went on hold.
Fast forward to a year later…and we still seem to be on hold. We had a pretty intense discussion about it a month ago….to the point of taking a 32 hour time out. We talked out all the concerns – he was worried we wanted different things in life – communication in the end resolved everything. We are looking towards the same future.
But now, here I sit, unofficially engaged, on hold, with no proposal and no ring. I don’t want to be the type that pressures. But I am so frustrated 🙁 How do I relax and go with the flow when I want it all now?????
Post # 3
ahh sweetheart, the market really sucks right now ((HUGS)) let me tell ya, we’re >>here<< does he know that none of the materialistic things are important to you when it comes to being his wife? have you set a time frame or date where you want to be married? it sounds like he wants to be able to support you or at least have a certain amount in his savings account before you are married so that if anything happens again, he’ll be able to be the “provider”. i am srue that everything will work out, it just sounds like he’s trying to fiscally get back on track.
Post # 4
Terra – ((HIVE HUGS!)) Is he the person you want to be with the rest of your life? Is he your best friend and the LOVE of your LIFE? If so, try to focus on the positives of your relationship – YOU ARE TOGETHER!! Most girls don’t have that!! I know, especially on a wedding website, it can be SO frustraing to not join in the engagement stories and planning… but if it’s meant to be, it will be!! 🙂 We support you, no matter what!!
Post # 5
he is most definitely the one and I couldnt imagine a future without him. Things are definitely turning around, I guess I just want everything NOW. LOL
His best friend flew into NYC last night from Montana (whom I have never met) to go to a show with us at MSG. Stephen introduced me as the love of his life…..and then said to him, you know you’re going to be my best man, right?
Things like that make me feel wonderful….because I know it’s only a matter of time. But I want an umpa loompa now daddy!!!
Post # 6
haha, terrawellness, i totally understand. it doesn’t help when people tell us, “well if you want to be together and you know you do, why not just get married now?” because it’s just not that easy, yo. but it’s hard to remain calm when all you want to do is start the rest of your life with that one right person [exactly like when harry met sally!]. but you’ve come to the right place, with many likeminded folks who can help make the waiting just a tad bit more bearable 🙂