- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Yes that’s right I asked her to step down 2 weeks out from my wedding.
A bit of a back story. Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been friends since Junior High and it feels in the last few year we have grown apart, or I have outgrown her, but how do you end a friendship that has lasted that long. I myself would just see her from time to time to make appearances. When I got engaged I knew instantly that I had to have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor by default. I knew if I didn’t she would kick up a sh!t stink so I had her as my Maid/Matron of Honor to keep the peace and avoid a fight.
To be honest I feel like I am putting all the effort into our friendship. One of her most undesirable qualities is her inability to drink socially. I have in a million situations been embarrassed by her drinking, hurt or the blunt of her actions. From my family members to close friends being affected. I have had conversations with her about how I felt. Every time I get made a few days pass and then I let it go until next time….
Well the next time was last weekend with my “Stag” party which she hosted. We had reservations for dinner for 8:30 in the evening and we got ready at her place before heading out. My other friend was with me. By the time we met up at the restaurant she was HAMMERD. She was loud and being obnoxious at the table to my other friends (Who were sober because one is prego and the other had to drive back home an hour away) then I go pee and she says to the girls in my absence “how would you feel if know one showed up to your stag” (there were 6 people there including myself. Several people wanted to be there but for various reasons could not, I.e it was remembrance day weekend, kids, work etc.)
We left the restaurant and went to another bar and she got sick at the bar and one of the girls drove her home all before 10:00PM!!
I mean I have seen her in worse states, this was child’s play compared to what she is capable of, but it got me thinking. I really am giving her this title out of obligation. I feel she does not represent what my wedding day is all about and I do not what her to sign my registry because I do not feel she represents what a marriage should represent or represent me as a person. It was this offense plus a million other terrible situations I have been in with her that made me decided to ask her to step down. For once I stepped up to her and she finally got a consequence for her actions. Needless to say she is not taking it well because this is the first time I have done something about it.
Do you think I was in the wrong by doing what I did? Please be Honest. (If it helps I did not ask her to step down until the next morning after she sobered a bit. And I told her if she felt embarrassed I would tell people if they asked that she had a family emergency and that’s why should couldn’t do it anymore. I also did not drink after she did what she did, I ended up being Dirty Delete at my own stag)