(Closed) On firing your MOH 2 weeks from the big day

posted 5 years ago in November 2012
Post # 3
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am sorry. This is a tough situation. You did what you felt you had to do, and thats all you can do.. Hope all works out!

Post # 4
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You had to make a decision that was going to make yourself comfortable and happy. I believe it all could’ve been avoided from the beginning by not offering her the position and been honest. But in the end its your wedding, your decision and you did the right thing by elimination the problem that wasn’t making you happy. It already sounded like you didn’t care much for her friendship before. So if losing her friendship is not a concern of yours, then it really doesn’t matter if you did the right thing or not. Its abiut how do you feel about the decision you made now?

Post # 5
5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

If your friendship has deteriorated and your former Maid/Matron of Honor was causing you more stress and worry over your upcoming wedding due to her out of control drinking, I get where your coming from, it’s not what I would have done, but it’s already done, right?….but if you gave her the heave ho because she doesn’t fall in line with what your wedding day “represents”…whatever that means, well, I think your out of line on that one….it’s just one day of your life, and while the commitment you and your Fiance will make to each other is signifigant and life altering, it’s certainly no grounds for someone to behave like the CEO of a Fortune 500 company and start pink slipping people for their personal problems…which everyone has.

I guess it doesn’t matter anyway, can’t unring that bell, I just hope that you feel like your wedding is going to go smoother without her, and that her drinking problem is one she can get under control.

Good luck!

Post # 8
504 posts
Busy bee

You’re wrong for asking her in the first place. You know what her behavior is like and if you thought she would change it for your wedding then you’re kidding yourself.

Best of luck

Post # 9
3943 posts
Honey bee

I think you made a mistake by having her as your Maid/Matron of Honor in the first place. But whats done is done.

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