Post # 1
Well I have complained about the lack of help several times and I am getting to the point that I wished I never asked anyone to be my bridesmaid! Oh they were oh so excited when I asked but all they do is let me down. Two months from today and they still can’t get together on the bridesmaids dresses. Yes, I have shown them several choices and they all have the opportunity to select the styles they want. But nothing seems to be happening.
To be fair, the one was not pregnant when I asked her and now sher has a 2 month old baby and is taking online college classes. But most of the time she can’t even find the time to answer a text message or an e-mail. My MOH is busy with her work and household issues. She can’t even find the time to come over and glue a flower that fell off one of the hair clips.
Now the third BM at least talks a good game. Oh she said she wanted to help me with the invites yesterday but I knew better when I learned she was going to an out-of-state concert the night before. Then she said she would come help today and went fishing instead. To be fair, she did call (several hours later than she said she would) but by then I had the bulk of the invites done!
I am getting fed up. I do not expect parties, showers and the like. I do not ask these people to assemble favors, centerpieces, what have you. I have tried to get them together for a nice lunch or whatever and no one has the time. How can I count on these people to show up for rehearsals and the actual wedding?
Post # 3
How close are you to them? Really close friends? I would have a talk with each of them one on one. Even on the phone if they’re too busy. Are any of these bm’s your bff? For even if it were only one, I’d have that best friend at my side! Today the rules are there are NO RULES! That’s the beauty of it. You don’t need more than one bridesmaid, and some choose to have none.
Have a heart to heart and you think on this too.
the only people I will have with me are my two lifelong bff’s and my sister (my other lifelong bff). These people I can predict their actions 100 percent if I had to. They’ve all depended on me for things and I know I can depend on them.
Hugs and lots of them coming your way!
Post # 4
Well when I asked them to be my BMs, I thought we were close! My MOH is my bff but she is always busy, busy, busy. She was not working as much when I asked her and she didn’t have 2 hyper toddlers to raise. Plus she was renewed an old friendship with someone else and I think I am no longer her bff and hey, that’s ok but as far as I know, we are still friends!
While the other two are technically friends, they really are more like surrogate daughters. Again, I thought we were really close!
I think I will have the suggested heart-to-heart with these ladies, one by one; if only to see if they really still want to be BMs or not.
Post # 5
just because you have been there friend for years dosn’t mean you can predict there actions. Me and one of my maids have planned for years being in eachothers weddigns and so fourth. Flash forward im engaged and she has turned out to be the worst maid ever. Here i thought the one persone who would be siked and devoted love to help me plan told me she was sick of the wedding and no she is not jealious she is getting engaged soon.