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I didn't drop any weight and I am on the thick side. I want to look like myself on my wedding day, not like the skinny version of me. Don't worry, you will look back on your wedding photos and actually recognize yourself.
I didn't try to lose any weight for my wedding. I am who I am, and I'm not going to try to be a skinnier version of myself for one day. I don't really understand this, when most of these people go right back to how they were before the wedding, so now, your wedding pics will show a version of you that only lasted a few weeks or months? I know every case is different, but this actually worries me.
If you are comfortable with the way you look, don't change for anyone
I actually GAINED weight. All my husband kept saying at the altar was "you're so beautiful". :)
Skinny does not necessarily mean "more beautiful." People who try to convince you otherwise can seriously go perform a sex act on themselves.
I didn't lose weight for our wedding, because I am firmly anti-dieting in general. I might even have been heavier than usual because I was recovering from hip surgery and took the summer off from my usual intense training regimen because, you know, I was getting married. And I think I looked awesome. I mean, I understand everyone wants to look their best, but the fact that such a huge number of brides assume that looking your best means losing weight seems pretty sick to me.
People who go to weddings and use it as an excuse to police the bride's weight... well seriously. Jerkfaces. Jerk. Faces.
I lost a little bit of weight during the last week of the wedding due to all the stress but it wasnt really that noticeable. I think for a lot of people its stress related too
i did lose a couple pounds before my first dress fitting but after that i stopped trying - unfortunately that last month i was SO stressed out that i lost more weight than i planned.
sometimes i think the weight loss is unintentional. that last week alone i lost about 10 pounds because i couldnt eat because i was so nervous that things would go wrong. no worries though gained it right back on the honeymoon! hahaha
i felt the same way as you. . 'hm, maybe I should lose some pounds cause seems to be the thing to do' --and then did nothing about it.
looking back, i really don't think it matters. sure--i might have loved a few pictures more if i looked super thin. . .but really the effort it takes to lose 10-15 pounds was just not going to fit into my life leading up to the wedding. not to mention i was sure if i lost weight, i'd gain it all back eventually. my body likes being this size.
i say, don't worry about it. :)
@Beluga: iawtc, except that performing sex acts on oneself is kind of fun.
I've had some issues with disordered eating in the past and resisting the diet-for-the-wedding message has been one of my big goals. So far, it's going pretty well and I am ridiculously proud of myself.
I am all over the healthy eating and exercise thing, but I think that positive body image is the most important thing, and if you're struggling with that, the other stuff will never last all that long or truly be all that healthy.
I do know one bride who ended up really skinny on her wedding, and several of the guests mentioned that she looked like she'd been run ragged with stress (which may have actually been the case... she was in a very stressful work/life situation in the months leading up to the wedding so it may have been unintentional weight loss). Everyone else... honestly I know brides who have dieted and brides who have been too stressed to eat for a week, and I've never really noticed a difference in how they looked at the wedding vs. normally. We are so much harsher critics of ourselves than those who love us are.
"i felt the same way as you. . 'hm, maybe I should lose some pounds cause seems to be the thing to do' --and then did nothing about it."
This is exactly where I'm at. I figured that I should, never got around to it, and well, it's too late now, so I'll look like me.
I feel the same way. I feel like I should lose weight because that's what everyone does for their wedding, but I haven't actually done it yet and I know that after the wedding I probably will go right back to where I was.
I'm trying on dresses in my size now, I don't want to lose too much weight because then alterations will be more expensive :P So I think I'm just going to stay as I am.
I did lose a little weight before the wedding (but I don't know how much because I don't step on scales), but it was because I'd gained a little "happy weight" while dating and just didn't feel pretty. I knew I wanted to give myself the gift of feeling beautiful on my wedding day so I worked hard to drop a few, but I definately wouldn't say I looked "skinny"!
If you feel good about how you look right now, own it and don't worry if people think you need to lose weight. I've never gone to a wedding and thought "Gee--I really thought she'd be skinnier at her own wedding!" I just love seeing the beautiful, glowing bride no matter what her size is.
You're so close to your wedding--do not put any extra pressure on yourself at this point. Just schedule yourself a massage instead.
I lost 30 lbs between 2008 and 2010 when I got married. I was down to the weight I was when DH and I met... only to put 15lbs back on in the three months following the wedding.
I'm not aiming to lose weight. I'm actually looking to just get rid of my tummy area a bit. But that nothing to do with the wedding . I just gained 15 lbs since last October because of stress and life changes and what not. I don't recommend losing weight just for your wedding, it seems wierd to me. Sure work out, because its healthy, but I wouldn't restrict myself if I were you.
I chose to drop a few pounds before the wedding because its what I wanted to do. It had nothing to do with what people "expected" of me. I wanted to look the best I knew I could look for my wedding which meant shedding the "happy weight". I had gained a lot of weight after college and even though I was considered a "healthy weight" I knew I could do better for myself- eating a bag of doritos for dinner is never a good idea. I lost 16 pounds for my wedding and I wouldn't have changed a thing.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with not losing weight for your wedding but there is also nothing wrong with trying to lose weight. You are not better or worse for choosing either path as long as you are happy with yourself thats what matters. Regardless of weight, as a wedding guest I have never felt a bride looked anything but beautiful.
I lost weight for my wedding only because I wasn't a healthy weight and the wedding was great motivation to finally get my butt in gear and take off some unnecessary poundage. If I had been at my current weight to begin with, I wouldn't have changed anything. I've been underweight before and it's super unattractive; I wanted to look like me on my wedding day, not like one of the bony models in wedding magazines.
I did not lose weight before the wedding because I honestly didn't want people looking at my wedding pictures and thinking, "wow she got really fat since the wedding."
For real though, I am comfortable with how I look. I did start working out with a trainer, not to lose weight, but so my arms wouldn't jiggle as much. I actually gained a few pounds of muscle before the wedding.
I used the wedding as motivation to lose weight because I am/was way heavier than I had ever been in my life.
I have lost about 15lbs since April. not a ton but considering I was borderline 250lbs it's a step in the right direction for my health.
I don't think it's something that should be done ONLY because of the wedding esp if you are already a healthy weight. Your SO loves you for you or they wouldn't be marrying you.
I wanted to lose weight (as I've been wanting to lose 5lbs for a year now), but I've got no motivation. It's a little late now for me as well, and I actually put on 5lbs from the tiem I purchased my dress until now.
While I have no intention to be 'bride skinny', I have heard about it from family, as they were in the "best shape of their life" and "worked their butts off for their wedding". Really, I don't care enough to worry about that. So what if I have an extra 10lbs on me that I didn't want - I'm still a healthy weight.
Don't worry about it and when you look back, it will be yourself that you see, and not something you had to work so hard to achieve and didn't get to enjoy all the moments of planning and other things.
The owner of the salon I got my dress at keeps telling me I'll drop those 5lbs by the wedding - sometimes I agree, then I rememer I stress eat!
...Maybe I shouldn't of had that ice cream cone after lunch, and all those samples at Costco before ;)
I also have a BMI of 22 and I am not actively trying to lose weight for the wedding. My dress fits, so why worry? Sure, I'd love to lose the 10 - 15 lbs. I've gained since FI and I have been together, but I'm at a healthy weight for my height and body type so I'm not stressing it too much.
I am at a (just) healthy BMI, but about 15lbs up from my happy weight. I thought that getting engaged and setting a wedding date would be the motivation I needed to finally get rid of those extra pounds. So far, I have lost nothing, but I have tonned my arms a lot, which is something, at least.
I can't tell you how much anxiety this is causing me :( People around me keep assuming and making comments that I must be working hard to look hot and great on our WD. Ummm... do I look that bad now?
Ugh, this is such a sore spot with me and probably the most stressful thing for me about this wedding.
I'm in a similar situation, I also have a BMI of 22 and I think I am hovering around my body's set point. That said, I would still like to lose maybe 5 lbs for the wedding just to give myself a little boost of extra confidence. It wouldn't make or break anything for me, and I think I look pretty good the way I am, but I would like to look a little more toned and feel more healthy in general.
For me, the wedding is a good motivator to do the things I would like to be doing anyway but often don't make a priority (eating healthy, working out, etc), but it's not necessarily about getting "bride skinny".
I'm not planning to be skinny for my wedding. Still, I'd like to drop a few more when engagement picture time comes around (next fall), and maintain that for the wedding (fall after that).
I gained weight so I wouldn't have to get my dress altered. ;)
i'm overweight, and i'm still not planning on losing any. mostly because i don't want to pay for any alterations on my dress if i do lose weight.
I'm a little heavier than I would like to be, but didn't lose weight for the wedding. Our engagement was an incredibly stressful time (for reasons not related to our engagement), so losing weight was not a top priority. I was pleasantly surprised how happy I was with the way I looked in my wedding photos. :-)
I have no plans to lose weight. All I want to do is lose some of my jiggle, and I will be happy! I don't like being super skinny. I have curves and love them!
I am in the process of losing weight for the wedding, but only because I was ridiculously overweight before, and needed to lose some anyway. The wedding is just perfect motivation. I am still considered "overweight" accoring to my BMI, but if I had to get married tomorrow (twist my arm, why don't you?), I wouldn't be upset by how I look. That being said, I would like to get myself into the "normal" weight range, although even then, I know it will be at the top end of that scale. I've already told FI that I will never be skinny, and he doesn't care. He loves me whatever weight I am, but does want me to be healthy and happy.
I lost weight during our engagment, but I wasn't trying to and didn't want to. I was just so stressed that I couldn't gain any weight. Several people commented on it and I didn't know what to do. After the wedding, I gained the weight right back thanks to my over indulging on my honeymoon.
I would have rather just been my natural self because when I look back at pictures I see how thin I was and it doesn't look normal!
Oh girls! I've gained 15 lbs. since I got engaged, so I've only recently begun working to lose that amount before the wedding. I'm realistic about my normal weight and trying to get back there and no lower :)
I think that being healthy every day should be important and not trying to drop weight just because of your wedding. Then after you gain if back and you look back at your pictures and it is not your true self.
I have lost a few pounds since I bought my dress but now it fits perfect and I don't need alterations, so that was a bonus. But I've been working on a healthy lifestyle, working out etc for the last couple years as that is what I like. I wouldn't try and lose weight just because I'm getting married.
@Entangled: "We are so much harsher critics of ourselves than those who love us are." Yes, that.
@bee_elle: Yes, you are worrying over nothing. You will be as beautiful as any bride... because you will be the bride! And I'm not just blowing smoke. There's something about the actual wedding day - the excitement, the dress, the hair, the makeup, the love from all your friends and family, and especially the sheer *happiness* - that virtually guarantees you will feel, and BE, stunning, plus or minus 5 or 10 or 20 pounds!
As an older bride (47) who has never been even close to skinny, I was not focused on getting "bride skinny" at all. However, I did fall in love with and buy a sample dress that was just slightly tight. It looked fine and had a corset that made it work, so I didn't stress out about it. But in the end, I lost a few pounds in the last week before the wedding simply because I was too busy to eat! LOL That is likely what happened to some of the brides you mention in your post, as well.
I can't imagine that any of my guests were focused on my weight that day. I wasn't, and my husband-to-be certainly wasn't. And just because I love sharing pics, here's one that shows my not-so-skinny but ever-so-happy self and my adoring groom (right as he met me half-way up the aisle):
I have a healthy BMI at 22.5, which still puts me in a size 10 but I am more than okay with that. I originally had intentions of losing weight for the wedding, but never really put any effort into it and don't particularly wish I had.
I had a baby in February so I was worried about needing to lose weight for the wedding. My whole life I've been fairly normal/thin so I wasn't sure how much I'd need to diet, or how good I'd be at it.
I'm down to 29 days left before the wedding and I am at my pre-pregnancy weight (with the help of breastfeeding) but originally I thought I'd like to be 5 pounds lighter than that for my wedding.
Now I'm not so concerned with dieting and I'm more concerned with making my arms look buff :) I'm going to start doing tons of push ups and pull ups and then some abs just to tighten up for these last few weeks. Otherwise, I'm just not going to worry about it.
Most people who I know have lost weight for the wedding gained it back very shortly thereafter. I am not also losing weight for the wedding--I feel like I should be though--like I am doing something wrong :-)
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i've noticed a phenomenon in the past few years where brides get 10-15 pounds below their normal weight for their weddings. i don't think i've been to a single wedding in the past 3-4 years where this has not happened. to be clear, i'm talking about girls that were already thin and a healthy weight.
i haven't done this, and it makes me feel a little bit self conscious. i'm a perfectly healthy weight for my height (BMI 22), but part of me feels like people are expecting me to be skinnier on my wedding day than i am from day to day. also, there are parts of my body i'm not the most comfortable with, but it's a little too late to do anything about it now.
what do you guys think? am i worrying over nothing? i feel like i'm not as beautiful as other brides because of this...