Post # 1
I mean, I realize I’m having a DW and they gotta cover the cost of attending and all so I don’t mind but now I feel a bit akward becuse It didn’t even occur to me at the time and I left her a rather expensive “thank you gift” for one of them before cutting out of the shower…. for helping throw the shower with my MoH and everything.
I’m worried I made that BM in particular feel akward if she didn’t feel a shower gift was warranted…..or is she the one in the wrong?
Post # 3
BMs pay SO much to be part of weddings that many can’t afford a gift – especially for both the shower and the wedding. A card would suffice.
Post # 4
I personally don’t expect a gift from any of my bridesmaids. The time, effort, and money they shell out just to be apart of a wedding is enough. They shouldn’t have to spend more money on gifts to top it off.
Post # 5
I had my bridesmaids doing so much for me, shower, and stuff for wedding, plus they paid their own hair, makeup, and dress. I did not expect a gift from them. They’ve done enough and appreciated that more….so I wouldnt’ be upset if they didn’t give a gift.
Post # 6
Yeah, I’m not really upset, I hope I just didnt make the one I gave a gift to feel weird. I kinda wish they gave me a card though!!
Post # 8
No, not at all. It’s not a problem!
Post # 9
I realize no gift is no biggie, since they have to spend so much, but should they have gotten a card?
Post # 10
I think they threw you a shower… so no card needed…
Post # 11
Honestly, the last time I was a BM I spent so much on the shower, that I just couldn’t even afford a gift from the registry. I gave the bride a bottle of our favorite cheap champagne from college and a card to at least make the gesture. I don’t think she expected a big gift with all of the time and money that we put into the shower, either.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t sweat it. Yes, it would have been nice of them to at least get you a card, but maybe they thought that might point out even more that there was no gift to go with it.
Don’t sweat it on getting them a gift though. A gift is just that – you got what you felt you could afford/wanted to get them and they did the same.
For my shower my SIL/MOH got us a muffin pan and cheese slicer. His company ended up paying for their flights, they stayed with my parents, and I bought her dress and shoes. They’re freaking about about affording a child (she’s pregnant) so I was happy to get whatever they chose (Grandma threw the shower – she just showed up).
Post # 13
Gifts (and cards) are never required. You didn’t specify if the bridesmaids helped host the shower, but if they did, the shower itself is a gift. Even if they didn’t, perhaps they simply couldn’t afford gifts. Totally their call.
Post # 14
My BMs didn’t throw or even help with my shower. My sister (MOH) got a $50 gift card, which was awesome. My BM (FI’s cousin) got us a cake cutting knife and the pen set for the guest book, which was also great. Other BM (FI’s sister) got us nothing. She didn’t come to the shower. She didn’t come to any of my three showers, as a matter of fact. If she’d just shown up to the shower, gift or not, I’d have been happy.
I think that if they pay for the shower, and/or expensive dress, they shouldn’t have to get a gift. But, FMIL bought FCIL and FSIL’s dresses and they didn’t pitch in with the shower at all. Financially, or otherwise.
Post # 15
Showers are expensive……maybe they couldn’t afford a gift on top of it.
Post # 16
I think, as the hostesses, they are not expected to give even a card to the guest of honor.