Post # 1
heres my story im 22 have a 10m old babygirl and with my Fiance weve been living with my parents for over a year. i love my family especially my mom. But ever since weve all been living together we have really bad arguements probably every 3 months around there. Our plan was to live together save up and buy a house all together, once we coulde sell each get half of what we made and go our seperate ways. ive never been without my parents, so we had an arguement on saturday night over the stupidest thing and things escalated to ” we shouldnt live together “.
i talkd to Fiance and he wants to move out get our own place and im fine with that only thing i would have to stop working because right now i work and i pay my mom to watch my bbygirl. ive been working since i was 16 so quitting work is kind of hard for me. sigh.
After we had all calmed down my parents Fiance and i talked Fiance told them if we were to buy a house things would have to change and we would have to find a way around all our arguements and my parents didnt say anything? so we decided to tell them we would go our seperate ways once our lease is up which is in two months. my mom said ok started crying and left the room.
Its so hard for me because ive always been around my parents and my brother, were a small family so we always stuck together. And now that weve decided to move out seperately i dont know what to do. i guess its still sinking in that were going our own ways. I feel bad leaving my parents but it was something that was eventually bound to happen?
sigh sorry long vent
Post # 3
@Missus_LLC: That is what this place is for, so vent away! I think it sounds like you are making the healthiest decision by moving out, and I think in time every one will realize that!! Yes, leaving your home for the first time can be very scary, but very liberating as well. Your parents should not be ‘angered’ by your decision, nor should you feel bad. It just sounds that tensions are high for the time being. If you and your Fiance make a plan, then you will be a-ok. Your parents/family are NOT going anywhere 🙂 Also, you said you would have to quit if you move, bc your mom watches your child?! Couldn’t that still work when you move, except now you would be dropping your baby off to her?!
Post # 4
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I think it can be really hard for an adult child to live with their parents. In some cultures it’s the norm and things are fine, but here I often find that it’s hard. I moved back in with my mother when she was diagnosed with terminal uterine cancer and even though I loved her and was so happy to have that time with her, living together was hard at times. Not all the time. But I had gotten used to only being accountable to myself. And while she never tried to set any rules for me, it was still hard, at times, to incorporate her into my life and decision making. It worked out and I’m glad I did it, but I can totally understand how hard it can be to live with family. You can still be close even if you aren’t living with each other. It may be hard at first, but I think it’s probably better in the long run. Good luck!
Post # 5
thanks for the support!
Fiance doesnt want me to work if we have our own place so i would be dedicating myself to my baby and being a housewife. Im ok with that its just i feel like its too soon? ha i dont know ive been very confused since we made the decision to move out. I do know that in the long run its whats better for all of us. Its just that i hate it when my plans dont go through and thats whats happening here.
I feel bad and confused but part of me also feels relieved because itll give me a chance to be on my own with my little family and actually miss my parents and be happy when we see eachother.
I know it might sound dumb in a way but i dont want to stop working and depend on Fiance 100% thats just who i am BUT since situations change and we all have to adapt i guess ill have too. Fiance said hed give me all his check so i wouldnt have to ask him for money and i wouldnt feel weird hehe
Post # 6
and with us moving out i dont think things will be good with my parents so working and dropping baby off to my mom wouldnt work