(Closed) …On the first date?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Kind of. I met my fiance at a mutual friends party. We were both drinking and ended up pashing on the dance floor. We didn’t go home together though, I was only 17 and my mum picked me up from the party lol. 5 years later and we are engaged so I don’t regret it.

Post # 4
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345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

yep!  knew my FI from work but I wouldn’t even have said we were friends. then one day we just went to a bar together after work, talked, but it still wasn’t a date. a week later, we went out again, and 36 hours later were still together!  so we ended up sleeping together, having breakfast, went over to his place, spent the night together again, etc!

However, having said all that, I wish we had spent more time talking than shagging in the first few months. I don’t have a problem at all with when people decide sleep with each other – 1st date, 1st anniversary, waiting until marriage, whatever, but I think it’s important to really get to know one another well.  My FI and I are now having a lot of problems and arguments, that I think if we had spent all the time we spent having sex and watching movies in the first year instead actually having real conversations with each other, things would be really different now.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

FI and I actually technically hooked up BEFORE our first date. Whoops! You know the story, you’re friends for a long time, the timing is never right, and then suddenly you’re both single and you realise how devilishly attractive your friend is! Haha.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

@SpecialSundae: Yeah, I must say, I wasn’t particularly concerned about wanting the same things in life at that point. We were young and halfway through our undergrad degrees – “long term” was anything after graduation, lol. I don’t really know at what point I realised our relationship was actually something special that could go all the way!

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I slept with my now husband very early on. I was going to wait bla bla bla, but figured if we weren’t sexually compatible it was better to find out sooner than later. Honestly at the time I had pretty much taken a relationship off the table with anyone. I was recently out of a traumatic relationship and just wasn’t looking to be with anyone long term.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@SpecialSundae: Oh I never intended to wait for marriage either. I just meant wait longer, like a month or so. Let’s just say it was much sooner than that. My first time was just bad lol

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@BrightGreen: This is exactly how it happened for me and the hubs!! I don’t regret it one bit

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

We did the naughty on the first date. Actually, even before the first date, we were making out and he managed to pull off some “grab-age”, if you catch my drift. I like to tease him and say  I can’t believe he was such a sleaze but he always replies “it takes two!”. Both of us have never been happier! …or had a better sex life!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I knew I was going to sleep with him the minute I saw him… if I had the chance.  Call me Samantha on that one, but it was lust at first sight.  We had exchanged letter-length emails for a year, so when I connected the man with the words, I let my guard down more than usual.  I’m no goody-two shoes, but if it was going to be a fling, I was down for it.  (No pun intended) 😉  He actually said no.  He later told me he knew we were headed for marriage and didn’t want me to feel taken advantage of… that or he was nervous! 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

We met at a party on Fri, Sat he went to a concert. He got home so the next morning we met at Starbucks for breakfast and to get some caffine. He gave me a kiss when we parted our ways and I thought that was cute. But the next actual date that we went on the next night was dinner and a movie with some playtime after. It is what it is. We broke the rules big deal! We have been together and faithfull ever since and now we are getting married in 48 days!! Some people may have done things differently but I wouldnt change a thing!!

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