On the opposite spectrum of RSVPs… not getting 'enough' Nos?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@virgomasala80:  I really think the percentages depend on who and how many you’re inviting initially.

For instance, FI and I are inviting probably 150 people to our wedding and we expect that probably 125ish will come.  This is because we’re inviting mostly family and close friends only.  The other 25ish people are cousins of my dad and some of my family who live out of state/out of country and I doubt will make it.

If you’re having a larger wedding and inviting coworkers, acquaintances, extended family, friends of parents, etc, I’d imagine the decline rate would be higher because all of your invitees are not necessarily THAT close with the bride and groom.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We were orginally hoping for 150-175 to rsvp yes. and thus far our guest list is probally 220…. ick! it grew quickly!! so we are hoping for some nos….  we know some oot guest wont be able to make it in due to birth of baby, so thats probally at least 10 nos. hoping for more!

Post # 6
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think the “decline rate” statistic is the worst possible thing to follow… very much like the “average cost of a wedding” statistic.

It truly is a case-by-case scenario, depending on your relationships with the people you invite.  And also, I would never invite someone hoping that they would decline.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I had a large amount say yes…more than I thought anyway. We made sure we could afford and accomodate them just in case, and we were glad we did.

Post # 9
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322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I invited 221 and was expecting like 175, but our RSVP deadline is tomorrow and only 20 have declined! Now, it looks more like 190 which is only a 14% decline rate. I also had a lot of out-of-state guests that I didn’t think would come, but they are! Don’t get me wrong- totally excited to see my family, but we’re just watching the $$ go up lol

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I invited 171 and we are expecting 140ish or so. We only have two nos so far, but none of the people that we figure will say no have responded at all. So irritating, because it means we can’t invite some other friends!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@HVbride:  Right, this is how I feel! I think this is going to happen to me. I want everyone to be there, (315) but I don’t want to have to pay for that many!

 

Post # 12
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298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am having alot more yes responses than anticipated. I was assured by my dad that his cousins need an invitation but they would not be coming because “they haven’t been here in 20 years, why would they come now?” (they all live about 6 hours away) Well about half of them are coming now. I always had in the back of my mind, this is a perfect reason for them to make a long weekend/ mini vacation out of my wedding and I think they are. I am grateful that everyone loves us and wants to attend our wedding.

We already have 111 people confirmed for dinner and over half of our RSVPs are still hanging out there. So there still may be some nos to come in.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We were hoping for around 160. We’ve received 50% back and are already at 91 yesses (so at that rate, we’re over 180). We’re hoping that people take a little longer to respond “no” because they feel bad, haha.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re hoping for a low-ish “yes” rate. Total, we’re inviting something like 270. 50+ of those are absolutely unable to attend due to living in other countires and being unable to afford the trip. They are FI’s aunts, uncles, and cousins, so they deserved an invitation at least. Beyond that… we’re hoping that another 60 or so of the remaining guest list says no, as our ideal size is 150. The venue holds up to 200, though, so it’s doable if we get an overwhelmingly positive response. Our wedding qualifies as destination for 95%+ of all our guests, which may play into it as well. I want to include everyone but I don’t want to pay for them. Such is life.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We over invited. We only wanted 150, but if everyone says yes, we will have 208 people!!! eekkk. So I am hoping for some no’s lol

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Is it bad that I’m kind of hoping for some “no”  responses??? There are a few people that are more of courtesy invites and I sent them a STD back in Jan. Now I wish I had really sat down with my guest list and not included some of the courtesy ones. But it’s too late to not send them an invitation. So I’m kind of hoping they’ll RSVP “no” and I can use the extra money to get something else :

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