Post # 1
So last night I went for my six-weekly visit to my myotherapist. I have been seeing her for about 6 years because of some chronic back problems and we are both in long term relationships that haven’t shown much sign of moving forward and we always chat about it.
Except, now mine is. So I was giving her the update about how tomorrow (EEK!) I am going to pick out the diamond and things are finally moving forward. But I could tell she was a bit jealous and even said quite bitterly “My boyfriend won’t even talk about rings with me.” I tried to cheer her up and all that but I could tell she was a bit annoyed.
It is just so odd to be on the other side of things – certainly made me feel bad for being jealous of those who have gotten engaged before me and made me realise I should just be happy for them and that my time will come!
Post # 3
Aw, thanks for sharing this. You’re right!
Post # 4
This was very insightful! I myself felt quilty when sharing of the possibiliy of engagement to others not as hopeful.
Post # 5
I am so glad you posted this. We got engaged a week ago while on vacation and decided to tell family and friends before putting it on Facebook. FI’s best friend’s girlfriend is waiting impatiently and we wanted to make sure she found out through him. Neither of them responded to the email or text message about the engagement and I could see how sad it made FI and how petty it made them look to mutual friends. After we posted it on fb she put a self-centered Congrats (mentioning how hard it was to keep the secret, not realizing 40+ people knew 3 days before her) and he texted my FI a day later. I didn’t realize how much sour grapes could kill our excitement and how bad it made them look.
Post # 6
Good grief, you can always count on someone to try and make you feel miserable, can’t you? The main thing to remember is the envy is their problem, not yours. Don’t let it spoil your moment.
Besides, there are enough of us pleased for you to more than make up for the miserable minnies…
Post # 7
@Pollywog: yikes that is so bad of them!! I had one friend who got engaged and it really shocked me (not the healthiest relationship) but I texted straight back with a congrats and asking all the details. I think even when you feel that twinge of jealousy it just isnt right to show it to anyone else!