(Closed) On your big Day… what would be the one thing you would have changed?

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Tell your DJ in advance who is allowed to have the microphone!  And if you have any relatives who you KNOW will cause a scene, warn him.  A few of Mike’s relatives ruined our first dance and the DJ was in on it, and we were really upset.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Make sure you take time to relax at the reception! By the last couple of hours I was so beyond exhausted at the reception because there were so many people we had to go speak to and I wish we would have kept it shorter with some people. Just because a lot of people who were friends of my husband’s parents who we barely knew were pretty tipsy and were just going on and on and it took away from us spending more time with some people we are much closer with. Besides that I wish that we would have just sat in our seats during dinner and not given in to all of the people coming up to us and dragging us here and there. I had seriously like 3 bites of my dinner and we barely got to sit in our seats together and just relax, sit back and enjoy it for a few min.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am a total advocate of first looks.  We did a first look and took lots of photos with our family and wedding party before the ceremony.  I felt SO MUCH more relaxed after the ceremony.  We had moments to just relax without having to worry about taking photo after photo.  You are going to feel rushed and pulled every which way during your reception (I think this is totally normal for ANY wedding– people naturally want to come up and congratulate you/drink with you/hug you/take pictures with you)… so a little down time after the ceremony is much needed! 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

1) You can never be too organized. There were certain things I didn’t think through completely ahead of time that didn’t work out logistically and confused people. 

2) My BM’s sort of clicked together and ditched me for a long period of time while we were getting ready. I had dreams of them being with me all morning and really wished I would have enforced that on my wedding day. 

3) Spent more time practicing our 1st dance which we took lessons for

4) Attended more of our cocktail hour. This is my biggest regret. All of our wedding professionals tried to keep us away, saying we ‘needed’ that time to unwind and be alone. I compromised by spending some time alone with DH to be bustled and get a drink, but I wish we would have spent more time and actually enjoyed cocktail hour which was absolutely amazing.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Plan for the opposite weather of typical.  Weather around here is typically 70’s and nice or rainy and cool when we got married (June 12).  We had a rain plan and were ready.  But, what we were not ready for was 90 and humid… 

Also, make sure your musicians know the timing of your ceremony.  Ours did not know how it was going to end so the recessional was a bit late..  

Let your vendors use their expertise.  They should be professionals give them an idea, make sure they understand your vision, but don’t nit pick them.  

Be as organized early on in the process and have a friend or professional be your DOC.  Handing over my box of favors, lights and list for family photos was amazing!Relax and go with the flow the day of your wedding.  Pad any schedule you make with time for people to be late because really you can’t plan for everything but you can be prepared!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Make sure you have someone in charge for the day, and try not to make that someone a family member.  I had a good friend, who is also a wedding planner, in charge for the day and it was wonderful to have that stress off of me!  I was super organized ahead of time, and it made her life pretty easy that day, too!

I honestly would have had different bridesmaids.  Long story, but they weren’t really there for me that day, and I would rather have gone with my friends who flew in from 2000 miles away who actually CARED to be there.

Put everything you will need for the ceremony in a box. Put everything you will need for the reception in a box.  Give these boxes to the appropriate responsible people to make sure they are delivered to the location.

Make lots of phone calls the final week to the wedding party, family, and vendors. There is no such thing as being TOO informed and you’ll certainly appreciate them being abreast of all situations when the big day comes!

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with moderndaisy – the only thing I would have changed is attending the cocktail hour.  We had a few minutes alone after the ceremony, and that was lovely, but then we sat in the house and ate during the cocktail hour, when we could have been with our friends and family.  I really felt like I didn’t get enough time with everyone.  But in our case, it was exacerbated by my FIL, who fainted during the cocktail hour and was taken away in an ambulance (he’s fine).  After that, my husband just needed a few minutes alone.  I understand it, but still kind of wish that we had gone out and hung out with everyone more. 

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