(Closed) Once again, Nothing :(

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It will come!  From experience, don’t push it…one of my previous relationships ended over me being so pushy about getting engaged.  Even if it comes in the next few months, you will have plenty of time!  Once the wedding comes around, I will have had 9 months to plan and honestly, I am getting ancy waiting around for it now!  Keep your head up!!! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Did he promise you it would be before New Years or just make a vague statement?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think it’s the word promise as much as the fact that he did in fact give you a specific date.  I hate to say it, but I see it so much on here – guys give a time that’s a long distance in the future and then don’t live up to it, knowing that the girl won’t walk away and they can just keep pushing it off.  Guys don’t like conflict, they want to tell a girl what she wants to hear.  But actions speak louder.  Listen to what he’s telling you by his actions.  

I also think it’s shitty that guys say things knowing girls will trust them to follow through, and then they don’t.  Sometimes they even forget they ever said it at all, which means they really had no intention of ever proposing.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@katy13:  we could seriously be the same person right now. We discussed doing it before the holiday and it didn’t happen. Now he’s mad that I’m mad that it didn’t! Lol and this isn’t the first time this has happened. I feel so numb and don’t know what to do or think!!!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@katy13: I guess it depends on how long you want to wait.  Some guys are perfectly content to talk about the future and are incapable of making it happen.

It’s a crappy situation.

I pushed a guy pretty hard to the point that I realized he was literally stringing me along; talking about marriage was OK, but actually getting married?  He wasn’t going to do that with me.  I was so happy to get out of that relationship.  My FI and I went out on our first date not long after, and realized how right we were for each other that we went ring shopping around 2 months later.  My best day with my ex was not even as good as the worst day my FI and I have had.

Some guys don’t realize that women really do listen to the words coming out of their mouths, and we get our hopes up and remember things that they say in passing.  Even though he did not promise he was going to propose in 2012, he still missed the deadline that you had in your head.  I would say a conversation of what the general timeline he has in his head is in order.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@katy13:  Deep breaths… life is far too short to spend so much of it worrying! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@katy13:  There is some statistical validity to getting married after 25.  And *lots* of things about life change after college.

Threeish weeks is not long to wait, and you won’t see him for two of those so you can focus on school and doing nice things for yourself.

Post # 15
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Worker bee

I agree.

SO also promised to propose before the New Year, and would have if that hurricane that shall not be named didn’t rain on his parade.

It sounds that your SO will propose soon. Just sit tight and enjoy the journey, this time in our lives only lasts so long.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Waiting sucks and I so share your pain. I know it’s gonna happen soon…but it’s very difficult when everyone around you is either engaged or happily married. Wanting to be engaged doesn’t mean you aren’t happy in your relationship. It just means you’re ready for it to move forward.

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