- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
After hearing so many stories about children at weddings breaking things/ causing mayhem, I really would prefer our wedding to be kid-free. Every wedding I have been to, children have turned it into a playground, and I am the type that is just not keen on that. Well, on my FI’s side of the family there are so many small children & the parents are the type to let them run and scream, while they get drunk/ don’t watch them, yet when other ppl remind the kids to use “their inside voices”, the SIL’s get all offended and cause a scene. Actually, it’s not even totally my SIL’s, i have a few friends who are on the guest list too, that are like this, yet since they are my friends, I can handle them.
Anyways, last time I brought up the idea of having a kid-free wedding, my FI just wasn’t having it. His thing was, “but honey, they’re family…” Yea, ok, I know that (I wasn’t singling out his family btw, I really think he doesn’t want to deal with his sisters..they’re loud and take everything personal). I explained that our venue isn’t kid-friendly, that if they see kids “out of control”, they will appoint a babysitter at $$/hr (this is not an expense I want to make, as we are reallyyyy budgeted).
As it is, we are limited on space, and trying to keep our guest list around 100, so making almost 20 of those guests children, just seems meh to me. Most of them are too young to even remember it anyways. And I would rather fill those spots with our friends, or family who will actually celebrate/ toast with us/ understand that our wedding is to unite our lives together ect ect,- whom we are not inviting so far (due to our limited space & guest list).
Anyways, back to topic…so, then FI suggested that we have only guests over the age of 10 at the ceremony & the younger kids could be in a different area, but then everyone can come to the reception. He was really busy when he said that and didn’t really give me a chance to say “but, I think….” It was early in the planning, so I figured, we would just cross the bridge when we get to it. Well, now we are at that bridge. I just really do not want almost 20 kids running through the (not very big) reception area, dodging guests/guests dodging them. I keep having bad dreams of kids breaking something, or spilling something on one of my bm’s, or me, or 1 of my SIL’s getting all defensive when their kids are asked to “settle down”.
Marriage is about compromise, and I don’t want to come across as being all bossy (when explanations are made, you know they’re all gonna look at me on that one)… So, should I just stick with his idea and allow everyone at the reception/ omit the adult guests I would like to invite, and smile through it, or should I say something to FI? Any suggestions?
(geez, yall weren’t kidding about guest-list drama)