Post # 1
So bees I was curious,
Once your SO gets down on one knee (or their personal variation) how long do you want to wait to actually get married? I realize that engagement is the wedding planning period and in many cases the figuring out how to pay for it period but I’m under the impression the date is one of the first decisions made.
Post # 3
We decided to wait just a little under 2 years. It works for us since we will be paying for it ourselves and we didnt want to forgo our usual daily routines to stash away more than we needed to! I am also giving myself plenty of time to complete tasks without getting overwhelmed. It is very important to me to actually enjoy the planning process so I am so grateful for the time!
We are also in Texas and the season is also a huge factor, somewhere between October- February is pretty ideal weather for us to not be sweaty pigs lol!
Post # 4
I would have loved to be married right away, but life had other plans!
Post # 5
Issit weird that we have picked a date, started a wedding savings, and looked for a venue, but are not officially engaged?
So I am pretty sure my wedding will be about 2 1/2 years from now to give us plenty of time to fund it like @misschickpea said.
At least I know the “proposal” has to be somewhere between now and the wedding date we picked lol!
Post # 6
We have a date picked next year and aren’t technically engaged, yet! Waiting for the ring to be finished. It will be about 9 to 10 months time, which is fine for us.
Post # 7
SO has stated he’d like 6 months to a year… I think a year or a little over that is perfect time to save, plan, etc.
Post # 8
I think about 12 months is FANTASTIC if it works out like that. It gives you enough time to plan and be engaged, but doesn’t make you wait forever. However, life happens and it rarely works out on the perfect schedule we create in our minds!!
My FI proposed to me in May, and I’ve always wanted a summer wedding, so we will end up being engaged about 13 months- which seems perfect to me!!! However, people keep telling me we’re having a long engagement. Whatever. I think whatever works with your lives and your schedules is the perfect amount of time to be engaged.
Post # 9
3 years 🙁 we want to wait till were out of school but want to get engaged asap lol
Post # 10
3-4 years minimum, he and i want to finish university first 🙂 and we want to live together for a year first (also my dad insisted on us living together first when he gave his blessing to our engagement before we got engaged), so who knows when we will be able to afford to move out
Post # 11
We will be waiting just under 14 months. My partner wanted to be married within a year but I negotiated another 2 months to be able to get nicer weather 🙂
Post # 12
He proposed in May and I wanted a spring or summer wedding, so we had to wait until the following July. He originally said he didnt want it to be more than a year out, but we had no choice given the venue availablity.
Post # 14
It really depends on three factors.
- What kind of wedding we want – obviously it would take longer to save money if we want something a bit extravagant
- Where he will be in his career – the SO will likely be starting an internship at one of the major media companies in NZ next year and the job he gets at the end of it (and the salary he earns) will determine how much he can save
- Where I am in my postgraduate studies – I’ll be graduating from my Honours degree next year and will need to make a choice regarding which qualification to do next and if I will do it as a full time or part time student. Again, so earning power comes into the picture again as well as the time I can devote to wedding planning.
We pretty much have two dates: 1 June 2014 or 31 May 2015
Post # 15
In all honesty, I want to wait 3.5 years. I have a venue in mind, and know that it’s extremely expensive, as in 55k+. It will take that long to save up and I know that SO wants to go on a World Cruise for the HM and that’s like 20k. So, that’s why.
Post # 16
It will depend. We are planning on getting married next summer (not setting a specific date until officially engaged). We decided that we wanted to get married next summer due to work/school logistics, so the amount of time between engagement & wedding will depend on when he proposes!