Post # 1
i found a dress i liked on oncewed.com but the seller has had it for 3 years, its supposedly new w tags so just to be sure i asked her to take pics of the dress, not caring about the quality of the pics themselves, just showing brand and tags, to make sure its not a replica and its still new.
she replies saying that she doesnt know how to post pics online, and tht the sale ad was posted by a friend, and that she will include the receipt and everything, but she cant post pics.
i like the dress, and the price is amazing! should i take it, or is it shady that shes not sending recent pics?
Post # 3
That does seem kind of suspicious. If you have time maybe you can work with her to obtain pictures via some other format and her friend can help her out. Otherwise, is there a return policy on the dress? If so, you can use Paypal or your credit card because those institutions allow disputes if the item you receive is not as described.
Post # 4
I don’t know…personally I would require a picture before I paid her any money. I agree with baldor1 that checking the return policy is a good idea so that you could stop payment if the item is not as described.
Post # 5
Escrow.com! You can return it and get your money back completely, without going through a dispute process. It’s part of the terms of the sale that you get time to inspect the product upon its arrival. I’d be really suspicious, too, and see if you could get pics in the mail even if internet pics are her problem. Good luck! I hope it works out for you. I am currently waiting to hear back from a seller on preowned and it is so nerve wracking when you find almost the perfect dress and get no where with it!
Post # 6
I would definitely be cautious, regardless of whether the seller is being honest or not. Can’t she/they just email you a picture of the dress, without dealing with the site’s ‘confusion’? My 80yr. old grampa can figure out attaching photos in email, so I really do not think she has an excuse (even if she didn’t have access to a digital camera, she could still take a film picture, scan it at a local library & email it that way).
I would be wary of purchasing it sight unseen, even if you use a reputable third party with good buyer protection/return policies, simply because you said previously (in other posts) that you were short on time. You don’t want to be shelling out the last of your budget, sitting around anxiously waiting only to be possibly disappointed– if you did buy it sight unseen, you would probably have to have a plan b lined up & ready to go just in case.
Post # 7
i asked her to send me the pics by email from the very beginning, and shes emailing me back and forth so whats the big deal about attaching some pics.
and the thing is i asked a few qs, coz just a week ago i was abt to buy a dress, also on oncewed then found out at the last minute tht the girl removed the train, so tht didnt work for me.
so i just asked her a few qs, like tags still attached, any alterations? and she replied with an attitude saying this is not gonna work! i mean ok i want ur dress but im not begging for it, im PAYING for it!
thanx alot for the escrow tip, i didnt know tht i could check it first so im definitely using it even if not for this particular dress.
thanx alot bees 🙂
Post # 8
If the seller had an attitude, I’d walk away no matter how badly I want the dress. Not worth the aggravation!
Post # 9
You could ask her to text the photo either to her e mail or to your cell, or your e mail from her cell phone. You could asked her to send photos through regular mail. (although time consuming, but if she really wants to sell the dress, I would imagine she would go leaps and bounds to get you photos somehow)
Post # 10
@rushing_bride: Ugh. She freaked out about you asking questions? What a B#$%^.
It all seems kind of shady to me. Unless she’s elderly, who the heck doesnt know how to post pics online? Or doesn’t have someone to ask to help?
Post # 11
Well, I’m not quite elderly, but I have never posted pictures online. How about her cell phone camera. I actually know how to do that.
Post # 12
sounds shady. i’d have her send you pics in the mail if she doesn’t know how to use a computer. heck, if she can’t figure out how to attach pics I’d be concerned about her ability to conduct a sale online and figure out paypal.
Post # 13
I KNOW!!! no wonder the dress has been sitting there for 3 years! well, let alone the fact she cant post pics, which i can relate to if shes like my mom 😀 but the fact tht she is not even trying to cooperate.
its just tht being short on time n cash made me a bit desperate, but thanks all for the replies, u put some sense back in my head!
Post # 14
@rushing_bride: What kind of dress and size are you looking for? I have a mermaid-style gown for sale.
Post # 15
Maybe she’s just rude and lazy? Anyways there are tons of dresses on oncewed and preownedweddingdresses. They should be doing everything they can to try to make you want the dress. You don’t have to waste your time (and money) with a seller with an attitude. No matter how rushed you are the seller shouldnt be the person rushing you!
Post # 16
Suspicious for sure! For sure ask her to send you pictures through email. If she doesn’t know how she can get her friend to help her– it’s super easy!