Post # 1
I’m so furious! I just watched the first episode of One Born Every Minute online and I’m so angry! They really make the woman trying for a natural birth look foolish. They show clips of the nurses sitting in the hallway and making funny faces because of the moaning and noises she’s making while in labor. Everyone is entitled to their own oppinion, but I’m so angry that they talk about natural birth like they are open minded, but then have the attitude that if natural labor doesn’t progress super fast, that they need to intervene and that mom is negligent for not wanting the interventions. I’m just angry they make it out like that.
Anyone else seen this episode? Thoughts?
Post # 3
Nope, but I’m mad for you. That is ridiculous. :/
Post # 4
I don’t even want babies EVER, and that even annoys me.
Post # 5
I am not mad at all. I saw it from the nurses point of view. The nurse was following the birth plan and doing what she can to take care of the mom and baby. If the mother wanted it all natural, maybe shouldn’t have come to hospital. I felt like the couple and doula were being completely disrepectful to the nurse. That nurse has probably been working twice as long as the mid-wife and knows what she is doing. So, I loved that it show portrayed more from the nursing perspective. But again, everyone has their own opinions.
Post # 6
@tracieszcz: Agreed! I felt the couple was pretty disrespectful toward the nurse whose job it is to do the best for mom & baby. They seemed pretty ignorant to that fact. Even worse was when the OB said the exact things as the nurse did, but they would only take her word for it. Pretty degrading.
Post # 7
Exactly why I will NEVER go to the hospital to give birth (unless of course something goes terribly wrong)
Post # 8
that’s the only episode of that show i have seen, and i had mixed feelings. on one hand they DEFINITELY made natural birth look unnecessary and stupid. the nurses seemed open-minded about natural birth but then laughed and made horribly judgmental faces when she moaned through her labor pains. i even had to wonder if some of their reactions were taken out of context for the sake of the show cause they were so ridiculous!
but on the other hand, the couple did seem really disrespectful to their nurse. i got the feeling they were trying to “stand firm” in their desire to go natural all the way, but the man was just a jerk. they seemed completely anti-hospital and talked to the nurse like she was an enemy. if they felt THAT strongly against conventional medicine, why give birth in a hospital at all? perhaps a home birth or birthing center would have been more comfortable for them from the start.
Post # 9
I didn’t think the couple was that rude. I would have a hard time taking a nurse’s word that something was necessary. I have a relationship with my midwives (there are 4 at our practice, along with 4 obgyns) and I trust them. I do not trust the nurses who I don’t know to follow my wishes and to not pressure me to do certain things before I’m ready. If the couple has a relationship with their midwife, it makes sense that they would listen to her more. Even the way the nurses reacted to the birth plan was rediculous. They said the right words, but the attitude and way it was portrayed was just awful.
Many hopsitals are not natural birth friendly, but not everyone has the ability to deliver wherever they want if they are using insurance. If I remember they started pushing pitocin at hour 13. I would argue against that too, because then you can’t move around or use the shower because you have to have constant fetal monitoring.
I’m so lucky I live where I do (a fairly hippy-ish/crunchy community) and that our hospital is really into natural birth and they work closely with the midwives from our practice. My stepmom, who’s a nurse, is acting as my doula/extra support in order to help make sure that I’m not pressured into using interventions that aren’t necessary. There are too many stories out there of hospital policies that have no medical basis and doctor’s and nurses who push women into using medical interventions to keep them moving so they don’t have to have a woman laboring for more than 12 hours in the delivery rooms.
Post # 10
I didn’t understand why the couple didn’t elect to have a home birth with their doula at home. The nurse was just doing her job and they were downright rude to her. I’m also pretty sure that the nurse has delivered hundreds of babies and this was their first child, and they acted like they knew everything.
Post # 11
I thought the show was edited to make the natural birth couple look as stupid as possible. And just because you want a natural birth doesn’t mean you should “stay home.” All it asks is for doctors to respect your wish for the process to play out NATURALLY as much as that’s possible, while still recognizing the value of having first-rate medical attention available. I’m actually pretty surprised at some of the anti-natural sentiments expressed here (those to the tune of “stay home.”)
Post # 12
Well, from a nursing standpoint, the nurse had a job to do, and they wouldn’t let her do it. They had no way of knowing how the BABY was. That was the concern… at one point they wanted to just monitor long enough to make sure the baby wasn’t stressed and they denied her again and again. IF something had gone wrong… if the baby wasn’t OK… the hospital AND the nurse could have been sued. I think most nurses are for natural birth but you have to include THEM in the plan and work WITH them to achieve a HEALTHY SAFE birth.
As for the faces… I’d be making that face to if the HUSBAND was making as much noise as the wife.. lol. I’ll admit I made a face watching… the husband was making noise too…. it’s not like they were in front of the patient. If you were sitting down the hall and heard that (the husband joining in) it would probably make you stop and react too…
Post # 13
OK. So this thread got me all curious, and I went and found the episode you guys are talking about.
#1st couple: HILARIOUS. Joking about dropping the baby in the toilet and it being a water birth? They were an awesome couple.
#2nd couple: Umm hello giant baby. Also thought they were a great couple.
#3rd couple: WOW. I’m all for natural childbirth (I really want that to be what I do), but that guy. was. an. ASSHOLE. Seriously. At first I thought they were really anal retentive (“Does everyone have a copy of the birth plan?” You mean the doctoral thesis that you brought in?!), but that guy was a serious douche. The nurse is trying to do her damn job, and he did nothing but snark at her like she was an idiot, in addition to acting like his wife couldn’t speak for herself. She’s not mentally challenged, she’s in LABOR.
Post # 14
THe whole series played in Australia last year. LOVE IT!
I think sometimes we forget that midwives really have seen it all, and the series is set in an NHS hospital in the UK, so they’re churning through pregnant women non-stop. They don’t necessarily have the time to be as invested in the birth as the mother, but that doesn’t mean they don’t care for her (or the baby’s) wellbeing, it’s just that, well, they have a job to do. I also think it’s important to remember that because of the nature of ‘fly-on-the-wall” docs, it’s heavily edited.
I have to say though, the series as a whole is fantasic and so many of the couples are HILARIOUS. I love Nancy, the lady who works reception, she’s such a bitch hehehehhe 🙂
Post # 15
This thread made me curious so I went to go watch it. I felt bad for the nurse. Every time she tried to talk the doula rolled her eyes. The husband all but said he didn’t trust her to do her job. He wouldn’t let her just monitor her progress even.
I also didn’t feel like the nurse was anti-natural childbirth– especially because she had both of her kids naturally. I think she just was trying to make sure the baby was safe and she was being fought every step of the way by the parents and doula.
Post # 16
In a perfect world, yes, you should be able to have your child in the hospital in whatever manner you want, and have a doctor standing by just in case something goes wrong. But, it is the doctor’s job to prevent things from going wrong in the first place, not to wait for things to go wrong and then step in. I would really like to have a completely natural delivery, but I’m also nervous to make that decision. It’s tough. And also– there is NO excuse for being that rude to someone!