(Closed) one bridesmaid can’t make it

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Yes, that is rude, especially being so close to your wedding.  Why not just have uneven sides?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just have uneven sides. It is ride to ask someone NOT to be in the wedding after they have been asked

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had some BMs go postal and I had to fire them (long story). One of my BMs will walk with 2 of FI’s groomsmen. We’re not having them join us in the first dance, so it is not that big of a deal.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You can have uneven sides. It happens all the time, whether be accident or planned that way. (My fiance and I are already planning uneven sides, I have 2 BMs and he has 3 GMs.)

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This happened to my cousin with one of her hubby’s groomsmen, except for he was having serious health problems, so it wasn’t because of rudeness.

She just had the bridesmaids and groomsmen walk in solo to make the unevenness less blatant, and it was actually kind of nice for her bridal party because no one was “matched up” for the night. It allowed the focus to really be on the cute BM dresses and little details when each of the girls walked in, too. 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can have two groomsmen escort 1 BM down the aisle to make the entrance smoother. Sorry abou the BM.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

yes, uneven sides is what i would do.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yes, it would be rude of him to ask someone to be his GM and then say sorry we want to keep sides even so bye!  Having uneven sides is perfectly fine, there is no rule in anything that I’ve read that states you must have equal attendents to have a happy marriage. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If you’re dead set on having the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, then don’t cut the extra groomsman out completely.  Re-assign him to be an usher or a reader.

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