Post # 1
We originally have 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. However, one of the bms couldn’t make it to our wedding. Now I am one bridesmaid short. My FI suggested that he can reduce one groomsman. Is it rude to do that?
Post # 3
Yes, that is rude, especially being so close to your wedding. Why not just have uneven sides?
Post # 4
I would just have uneven sides. It is ride to ask someone NOT to be in the wedding after they have been asked
Post # 5
I had some BMs go postal and I had to fire them (long story). One of my BMs will walk with 2 of FI’s groomsmen. We’re not having them join us in the first dance, so it is not that big of a deal.
Post # 6
You can have uneven sides. It happens all the time, whether be accident or planned that way. (My fiance and I are already planning uneven sides, I have 2 BMs and he has 3 GMs.)
Post # 7
This happened to my cousin with one of her hubby’s groomsmen, except for he was having serious health problems, so it wasn’t because of rudeness.
She just had the bridesmaids and groomsmen walk in solo to make the unevenness less blatant, and it was actually kind of nice for her bridal party because no one was “matched up” for the night. It allowed the focus to really be on the cute BM dresses and little details when each of the girls walked in, too. 🙂
Post # 8
You can have two groomsmen escort 1 BM down the aisle to make the entrance smoother. Sorry abou the BM.
Post # 9
I didn’t know that I can have uneven sides. I think that might be best for us. Thank you all!
Post # 10
yes, uneven sides is what i would do.
Post # 11
Yes, it would be rude of him to ask someone to be his GM and then say sorry we want to keep sides even so bye! Having uneven sides is perfectly fine, there is no rule in anything that I’ve read that states you must have equal attendents to have a happy marriage.
Post # 12
If you’re dead set on having the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, then don’t cut the extra groomsman out completely. Re-assign him to be an usher or a reader.