Post # 1
What do you do if one bridesmaid refuses to work with another bridesmaid? You are closer to the refusing bridesmaid, but the other bridesmaid is willing to work with the refusing bridesmaid. The refusing bridesmaid says either she goes or the other bridesmaid goes. Who goes? The refusing, closer bridesmaid, or the willing bridesmaid?
Post # 2
the one who can’t play nicely with others gets a time out.
what the heck are they fighting about?
Post # 3
If you think you are closer to the bridesmaid giving ultimatums then think again. What kind of friend can’t put aside their feelings for your happiness over your wedding? If she cared about you as much as she cares about getting her way she wouldn’t be pulling this jouvenile crap. Kick her out and enjoy your friend who seems mature about the whole thing. Good grief. The other one sounds like a spoiled brat.
Post # 4
The grown woman giving the ultimatum goes. Duh.
Post # 5
Yeah, whomever thinks their issues trump the bride’s friendships goes.
Post # 6
The one stomping her feet in a tantrum needs to leave the playground. What a bitch!
Post # 7
musicalsteve82: Just tell her that you are sorry she feels that way but “so and so” is my friend and it is my wedding and I have chosen her for a reason. If you really dislike her that much then I understand if you would like to drop out. Put it back on her to make the decision. Right now she is putting you in a terrible place.
Post # 8
Agree with everyone else. The “closer” bridesmaid really isn’t that close if she puts her pettiness above your very special day. The willing bridesmaid has a better character– take this opportunity to get closer to her! You may find that the willing bridesmaid turns out to be a loyal, helpful and kind friend.
Post # 9
What work are they doing?
Post # 10
I would tell the refusing bidresmaid to suck it up or step down as a bridesmaid.
What is she? 12?
Post # 11
musicalsteve82: from your username, I assumed you are male…are you the bride or the groom? If you are the groom, I think you should stay out of it and let the bride manage her own friendships.
Post # 13
As far as I would be concerned neither one. If the threatening BM decided to step down, that would be her choice and she would know how sad it made me that she felt she had no other choice.
However, I’m confused by what you mean when you say they have to “work” together. Their only obligation is to show up and stand by your side on your wedding day. Anything else is totally optional on their part.
Post # 14
weddingmaven: “I’m confused by what you mean when you say they have to “work” together.”
Post # 15
musicalsteve82: So, if the refusing bridesmaid is your FI, is the other bridesmaid the single woman you are close to, that your FI want you to drop?
I can see how this could be difficult for your FI.