(Closed) One bridesmaid (out of seven) wants straps

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7367 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@Ms.Sugarsnap:  What about those clear silicone ones? They’re visible from up close or if the light hits just right, but for the most part are pretty close to invisible. I feel for the girl — plus, you don’t want a nip slip at your wedding, right?

Post # 4
490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

**hugs** I know this can be stressful.  My cousin who is a Bridesmaid or Best Man is very very chesty and I want the girls to all be in strapless royal blue chiffon gowns.  She said she will suffer through if she need to go strapless, I felt bad so I asked her to try on dresses where she lives(next state over) and send me pics (with and with out straps)and I would decide from there.  Im sorry for your situation and I hope you can work through it, I mean if she agreed to go strapless even if she wasnt thrilled thats at least a step in the right direction.  Good luck to you I hope it all works out your way!

Post # 5
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

All of the Bill Levkoff strapless dresses have little attachments for a string strap, which you can order from them (I think they charged my Bridesmaid or Best Man 10 bucks for it).  It was hardly noticeable, and well worth it for her to feel confident and comfortable. Seriously, no one, including you – on your wedding day is going to be like “OHMYGOSH that one girl has STRAPS!”


The 4th girl up the stairs is wearing the strap. You can hardly even see it. Certainly not something worth being sad about. You want your favorite people to feel comfortable!!!

Post # 6
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

we just went bridemaids dress shopping, i would let her wear the straps, on the day of the wedding nobody is going to be noticing those little details, they will be focused on you and the groom, and i would rather have a bridemaid with straps then a bridemaid with a larger chest and a strapless dress falling down and her falling out.

Post # 7
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d just let her have the strap.  Especially if it’s just a thin spaghetti strap, it’ll barely be noticeabll that she’s different than the others.

I’d rather have one bridesmaid with a strap, than one bridesmaid with boobs down around her waist…

Post # 8
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Is she the only one that considered straps? I’m wondering if the other girls, if approached with the idea, would want straps too. If you have 2 or 3 girls with straps and 2 or 3 without straps, it will look intentional and she won’t be the odd woman out. Some ladies like adding straps to their dress even if they aren’t extremely well-endowed because they like the look of it or they like it more covered up (in the case of wider straps). Do you only like the dress if it is strapless or are you open to straps on 1/2 the girls?

I would rather she had matching straps in the same material/color as the dress than the clear straps though. I personally hate the clear plastic straps.

Post # 9
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would just let her have the straps, or let the girls all pick different tops/straps and have the bottoms the same. You aren’t really going to do much with your bridal party pix… they will be in your album but that’s probably it.

Post # 12
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Ms.Sugarsnap:  Personally, I would allow her to have the straps. I am very busty (36H) so I can see where she is coming from. Even the most supportive of corsets are still very uncomfortable!  I think your photos would turn out better with her similing and confident in her dress with straps, rather than her feeling awkward and resentful in her strapless dress.

Post # 13
2954 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

Having a larger bust size 30E I never go without a bra and strapless is never enough support for me so I understand where she is coming from.  I would let her have straps. She is going to be so much more comfortable and confident in her dress.  

Post # 15
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Did she try the dress on or just see the dress? I am having a Bill Levkoff dress in a very similar style and on Maid/Matron of Honor is quite busty. She felt the dress was quite secure. Otherwise, I would just ask the other BMs if they want straps like lilbluebird said. 

Post # 16
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

let her wear straps. It would be sad for her to be up there supporting you but feeling uncomfortable all night.

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