Post # 1
It’s been six weeks or so since the last time I hit a housework wall and here it comes again… it’s like our entire system of who does what is broken. I know a lot of households have a policy that one person cooks and the other cleans.
We don’t, and it started because we both like cooking and hate doing the dishes. So it needs not fair to have one person do something more time consuming but pleasurable and the other to do something quicker but miserable. Yet the having to do the shopping/cooking/half the dishes/everything else is just gnawing away at me.
I’m curious how many people do split the cooking and cleaning. And if you don’t, I am very interested in hearing how you do divide the daily grind chores?
Post # 3
@Entangled: Yes, that’s our policy! The exception to this is on days that I work & he happens to have the day off. If he grills for us on one of those days, he often offers to clean up as well (the grill & the dishes) because he’s had the day off & I was working.
In general, I love the idea of one cooks and the other cleans. Usually my husband relaxes while I cook and then I go relax and get some alone time while he cleans up. Works out well!
Post # 4
Yep, we have that “rule.” Of course we are allowed to bend the rules. Sometimes if hubby has been at work all day and I had had the day off then I’ll go ahead and do the dishes too. Or the other day he had to study for midterms so I told him not to worry about it. It’s generally pretty even though.
Post # 5
I always cook, he always does the dishes. Its not so much a who likes to do what thing as the fact that he CAN’T cook. 🙂
Me- grocery shopping, laundry
Him- garbage, yardwork/driveway care
We clean together every weekend. I definitely spend more time on grocery shopping and laundry than he does on garbage and yard stuff, but it works for us. I hate doing those things, so I’m just glad I don’t have to do them. Also, I have a lot more time than he does because he works more and is also studying.
Post # 6
The couple of times DH is home and we eat dinner together, he does do the dishes which I am grateful for. He hates to cook so for us it works out.
Post # 6
We do both together. We both hate to do the dishes, so the compromise is that we’ll cook something together and do the dishes as we go. We’ll talk as we do dishes together.
Post # 7
@JennyW1: We do this on weekends and it works out pretty well, since we have a lot of fun cooking together. The problem is during the week, he’s usually finishing up work until the moment dinner is served (he’s a PhD student), so I’m cooking alone and THEN doing my half of the dishes. Which does not make me very happy. :
Post # 8
I cook mostly every night, so he does the dishes. Works out great for us. He actually is the one who said that since I cook, he should do dishes back when I moved in a few years back. It works out great. All the other chores, we share pretty equally except I do the grocery shopping. We both do laundry, clean the house, etc.
Post # 9
Yep, we have the strict, one person cooks the other cleans 🙂
Then we have our chores divided by “time” so for example, it takes him about 1 hour each week to do yard stuff, and it takes me about 1 hour each week to sweep & clean the wood floors. So these are our weekly chores.
For daily chores, I unload the dishwasher or drainboard & he takes out the trash in the whole house (bathroom trash cans & kitchen)
I also deep clean the kitchen each week & he cleans the pool.
The rest of the house: bathrooms, kitchen floor, dusting, vacuum rooms, are traded off every 2 weeks.
Post # 10
I do all the cooking, my DH can barely boil water (thanks, MIL). So that’s how it usually breaks out, I cook, he cleans, but its not really a household ‘policy’. If he’s working late in his home office, or busy I might just clean up. But usually not 🙂
Post # 11
Not all the time. I usually end up cooking and then we both do the dishes. Sometimes if I’m really tired, he’ll just do them himself. But I usually end up helping even though I don’t have to.
Post # 12
We don’t have set rules, we just do what needs to be done, regardless of who cooks/cleans. We both work full time jobs, and I have 2 part time jobs also, so if I have to run to my next job, FI will have dinner waiting for me, and same with if he needs to go out after work, etc.
Post # 13
We do have that rule, but with a little twist: I cook every night and he reads aloud (we read a ton of books this way, and its really fun!). My dad taught me to clean while I cook, so I almost always get all the dishes done while cooking, except the pans I’m using (and sometimes I get those done when I plate everything up), and obviously the dishes we use to eat. Dishes generally take him less than 10 minutes, and sometimes I help too if I didn’t get the majority of them done while cooking.
Other chores – we team-clean the house every Sunday. I do: floors – sweeping, vacuum and swiffering and dusting. He does the bathrooms – we split the kitchen.
He takes out the trash, I take out the recycling on trash day.
He generally cleans the litterbox, but we each make sure its cleaned every day.
Post # 14
We have a very involved system where one person does kitchen and vaccuming each week and the other does the bathroom and dusting. We both do laundry, recycling and daily dishes. He takes out the trash. I do weird deep cleaning (washing windows, etc.). It works for us.
Post # 15
Depends on the night but I volunteer to clean if he cooks!