Post # 1
I am currently experimenting with different invitation ideas. A few that I like only have one envelope. Do I need an inner and an outer envelope? A friend told me that if I use only one envelope I can write the formal Mr and Mrs Whoever as the address but then on the flap on the otherside write first names and children is there are any… informal. Is this okay to do? Any other ideas????
Post # 3
I think it’s totally okay to just do an outer envelope. Just make sure you address it clearly to all the recipients of that invitation. It’s okay if they are addressed formally not informally on the invitation.
Post # 4
I agree. If you are going to use just an outer envelope the envelope should be addressed to all who are invited. Your other, less economical, alternative is to send a seperate invitation for the kids.
Post # 5
I recently saw something on weddingbee pro (http://www.weddingbeepro.com/author/betsydunlap/) that kind of threw etiquette to the wind and advocated addressing people by their first name on the OUTER envelope, for a cute, informal, and different approach.
Post # 6
I addressed the outside of our enevelopes "Susan and John Smith"
We’re having a Sat evening affair – but trying to keep it not too formal. For 2 or 3 older guests, my mother did insist on "Mr and Mrs John Smith" ekkk!
So…. I think it’s 100% ok not to have inner envelopes
Post # 7
I think no inner envelopes are becoming the norm. Plus, many people are DIY and if it’s not a basic card with the information and instead a bi-fold, tri-fold or even a box then there is of course no way to do a second envelope. I say no envelope. It’s a waste. Plus, it just gets thrown away. Try and come up with a way to use your paper wisely so you don’t have to use as much 🙂 Let us know what you come up with. There are so many ideas out there right now my head just spins with glee. I want to make them all. 🙂
Post # 8
I agree! Save some trees & your money. We just sent out our invitations (with no inner envelopes) and it didn’t cause us any trouble, except for lack of space to list all 5 of the young children in one family. We just went with "and Family" on that one. For all the rest we wrote: "Mr. and Mrs. John & Jane Doe" (and if there were kids the next line read: "and Abby, Bryan, & Casey").
Post # 9
Thanks for all your help ladies! I am 99% sure we are going to do one envelope. My wedding is over a year away but I have already made near 10 sample invitations. I can’t decide which ones I like more! Also, does anyone know of some good wordings for "Bride" and "Groom" together with their families… invitations? Thanks again! I will post my final invite as soon as I decide!
Post # 10
I think multiple envelopes are wastefull and bad for the environment. When receiving an invite the simplier the better imo… you want to be able to keep up with it all and its hard to go through a bunch of different sized papers.
as for wording, this is what I plan on using:
together we laugh, we dream, we love,
and on this day, we marry.
& Mister Groom
along with their parents
invite you to witness
as they join together in marriage
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Post # 12
I’m doing a thin inner sleeve with the peoples names on it. Less weight, less waste, still pretty.
Post # 13
It’s definitely becoming more and more the "norm" to use only one envelope. Especially right now, in the middle of a recession….everyone is trying to eliminate anything unncessary. (Which I’ve always thought the inner envelope to be.)
Add a liner to the inside of your envelope, to dress it up and add some color!
Post # 14
It is easy to address an outer envelope for two adults. Kids are the harder thing. One way to handle that, expecially if you are having a seated dinner, is have them respond with the number of children’s meals needed. It lets them know kids are welcome, and you get the info you need.
If you have older cousins (over 16), I would send them individual invitations, if you can afford it. Boys may not appreciate it, but I would have thought it was AWESOME to receive my own invite to a wedding when I was 16.