One food option for reception.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

It’s definitely not normal. There’s usually at least two options. I would consider it pretty rude because you’re going to hit and miss with various people – not everyone likes everything so…yea. I find that strange.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s fine to have 1 option. But you will have to allow for vegetarians, and food allergies. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissFemmeFatale:  are they able to add another option for more money? It’s not rude, exactly, but it can be hard to only pick one option, since some people maybe don’t like red meat/chicken/fish, but if its the place you like and  you really like the one dish, then it’s fine, but you might have some guests who don’t eat it. Will there be appetizers?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I went to a wedding this weekend that only had one dinner option – bbq pulled pork. I’m a vegetarian so I just ate mashed potatoes and fruit salad. I was not impressed.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think it is rude at all. Like you said, if you have a dinner party you’re providing one option

 

as long as the food is delicious and you can rpovide something for vegetarians you’re good

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are only having 1 entree (and giving vegetarian to those we know are vegetarians). Our wedding is at a very expensive resort and they have multiple options, but we thought it was unecessary and it’s more expensive.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissFemmeFatale:  if you’re having a pasta bar and apps, then its great! If you weren’t doing those two, it might be iffy, but I would be happy and so should your other guests.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have been to several weddings like this, including my own. We did not offer menu choices but, rather, offered a combination plate of filet of beef and shellfish, with accompaniments. I knew a handful of our guests are allergic to shellfish, so I coded their escort card inserts to indicate that they should receive two portions of the filet. Likewise, I knew a couple of our guests could not eat beef, so I coded their escort card inserts so that they would receive two portions of the shellfish. I learned that I had one vegetarian, and I arranged for a vegetable-ravioli dish to accommodate him. I should add that we made no mention of food options or dietary restrictions in our invitations; however, we included our menu on our website and asked guests to contact us if they are allergic to shellfish, cannot eat beef, or required a vegetarian meal.

 

ETA: Actually, in addition to the several weddings I have attended where the combination surf-and-turf plated meal was offered, I’ve been to a number of others where a chicken dish was the only offering.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think it depends. We were considering offering one meal choice, but it would be a plate with 2 veggies, a starch and beef and chicken. It’s smaller portions of each meat, but still more than enough beef or chicken to count as a serving and even if guests only ate one or the other, with appetizers passed during cocktail hour, soup, salad, dessert with the meal and a late lunch served later in the evening, guests wouldn’t be leaving hungry. And we would still be able to accomodate anyone with a dietary restriction (as in if they indicated they’re vegetarian when they rsvp they would get a different meal). I do think it’s odd though of the venue to only allow you to offer one meal choice…

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