Post # 1
We had 8 of each in the beginning….
One of our groomsmen found out he will be on deployment in September. He told me today on FB when I sent him a wallpost asking did he want to go out for a meet and greet dinner. He could have called?
The other groomsmen was supposed to go to Iraq for 15 months come June but found out he did not have to go. I’m glad he will be here but he not only never told us of his deploymnet (I found out through a mutual friend) but he also never told us it was cancelled.
One of my bridesmaids is paying for her husbands immigration process. She thought she was finished but turns out she owes her lawyer more money. Now she can’t afford to buy the dress. We are both bummed. She gladly offered to be a hostess.
My BFF is having financial issues and can barely buy herself food each month. She finally confessed today she won’t be able to be a BM BUT she wants to help with the shower and other activites.
I am not angry, just shocked. I’ve lost half my bridal party 4 months out. I still love them all and know it is not of there doing. I feel blessed the girls want to be a part our day and the one former GM whose deployment was cancelled is more than eager to attend the ceremony.
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest Bees!
Post # 3
wow thats a bit tough.. how much are the BM dresses? Perhaps if you could find cheaper dresses and cut down their cost they might still be able to participate?
Post # 4
Yeah the BM situation is really unfortunate. Could you pick a cheaper dress as it sounds like they have not been ordered yet? Is it possible for you to buy the dress for your BFF? I would be so sad if my BFF couldn’t stand up with me due to financial trouble. FYI, we discretely paid the tux rental for DH’s best man who was unemployeed and traveling to attend our wedding, just paid it off at the shop before he could pick it up and it never caused a problem with the rest of the wedding party. He was happy and it meant so much to DH that he was there.
Post # 5
The dress and jacket is $120. I chose that one because the first two dresses I had picked from everyonewere discontinued by Davids Bridal. They match my wedding gown.
If I had the money I would. But I am only working part time as I was laid off and my FI is paying for the reception. We are very VERY tight.
I would look online but my BFF has I-cup breasts and a small waist so at least at DB she could get her dress altered for cheap and the material would match.
I’m going to see what I can do though
Post # 7
We had two GMs back out in the last few months. One, my BFF, will be in Afghanistan. The other would have barely had enough money to come, but recently got his girlfriend pregnant and understably has different priorities now. It stinks, but we just moved some of our ushers up to being GMs and it all worked out. I had a BM back out, but another girlfriend step in so I’m back to seven of each.
Its a tough situation, and I understand what you’re going through. Just try to focus on all the positives about your wedding day, ie you’re marrying your best friend!! That will make you feel much better!
Post # 8
Maybe the BMs could just wear dresses they already own, so no one would have to go out and buy dresses? Mismatched dresses look super good anyhow (my friend did it and I LOVED her pics) I mean, it seems really important to you that these girls be in your wedding, so maybe you could change things around a little so they could still be a part of it.