Post # 1
i was wondering what people’s thoughts are on couples that register for one large item?
my fiance and i have been saving for two years to buy a digital slr camera and every time we get within reaching distance, something happens and we have to spend the money elsewhere. so we were thinking of registering at amazon for the camera body and lens. it’s like $2200 for what we want.
now we certainly don’t expect one person to buy the whole camera, but we are hoping that people will give us cash or gift cards so that we can finally buy it.
is this weird? i’m wondering if it’s even necessary for us to register and if i shouldn’t make some kind of cute card to put in with the invitations that basically says this is what we are aiming for and hopefully you can help us out (not those exact words, mind you)? i know it’s not proper etiquette to actually ask for a specific thing…
what’s everyone’s opinion’s on this?
Post # 3
It won’t hurt to put it on there. No one HAS to buy it.
Post # 4
The logistics of registering for only one very expensive item is big to me. Either your friends or family would have to go into together for it. OR you just wouldn’t get it at all. It’s not like they can contribute $50 online for that one item. It’s true they can give you a gift card, but they can do that if you don’t register at all as well. Hmm, I don’t think I would do it, but then again… you would be surprised at what people actually get for their wedding gifts. Go for it if you are comfortable doing that, but don’t write about what you want 🙂
Post # 5
@kperry3: I kinda figured it might be an all or nothing kind of feeling towards it. and maybe it would put a bit of pressure on the younger, less financially set people to contribute a larger amount than they normally would and that’s not my intention at all.
the thing that sucks that we don’t really need anything else. i mean, we could upgrade some stuff but we’d really rather have the camera. hmmm….
Post # 6
You can set up a paypall account that people can add to on their own to help you get closer to that camera. We set up a couple on our website for some expensive thinsg in hopes that people would put some money toward that instead of buying us a gift. We really need a new couch and a decent bed but wouldn’t expect any one person to buy them!
Post # 7
@Mrs Hedgehog: that’s not a bad idea! i will run that by my fiance…
Post # 8
I don’t think registering for one large gift is bad, but to be honest, I think a camera is a bit odd. I don’t really see that as a household item. I think you can expect cash or gift cards without physically registering for the camera. Just my .2
Post # 9
Do you get the discount after the fact to “finish” your registry?
If so than hell yes – that camera may be closer to reach than you think 😉
We registered for a bed!!!! Used our wedding gift money to purchase it after the wedding with the “finish the registry” discount!
Post # 10
My friend’s now husband wanted a flatscreen that was like $1800 and all of his side of the wedding party went in together and got it for him. I think a lot more people are doing bigger things because if they live together they don’t need most of the smaller stuff. I dont see anything wrong with it. It’s your registry. 🙂
Post # 11
@FMM: I hadn’t even thought of that! heading over the amazon to see if they do that! thanks!
Post # 12
For one of my friend’s wedding, we all knew that they wanted a tv as well so we all chipped in and got them gift cards to Best Buy so that they could go get the one they wanted. My friend and I packaged all of them in one box in funny ways but they did go to Best Buy with like 50 gift cards.
Post # 13
It’s fine. It’s not like you’re ONLY registering for the camera, right? People have a choice to buy what they want – and if you can register for it somewhere that will give you 10 or 20% off after the wedding, that alone (even without gift cards) would make it worth registering for!
Post # 14
@Mrs.Mittens: I don’t think having one expensive item on a registry of many is a bad thing. As long as it isn’t the only item. If it’s the only then there really is no need to register.
Please do not mention it on the invitations (or use a cutesy poem). That is tacky to mention anything to do with gifts on the wedding invitation itself.
Post # 15
@andielovesj: I would never put it on the invitation, i know that! that’s what those cards are for that they give you when you register.
Thanks everyone! Thinking we are going to have to give up on the camera for the registry and just hope for cash and gift cards!
Post # 16
Have you tried Best Buy? They have a card thing that people can put money on… basically just one big gift card everyone can pitch in for.