One last invitation wording question

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We are in the same boat.  My parents have paid for almost everything, with FI’s parents paying for the rehearsal dinner and about 1% of the wedding costs.  We did list my parents as hosts on the invitation. FI and I both felt like it would be a slap in the face to my parents to make it seem like both sets of parents had contributed equally when that was not the case.

Post # 4
74 posts
Worker bee

@loveinthelibrary:  No, FIs parents do not need to be listed as hosts – they are not hosting. I’m also having similar issues, only my FMIL told me how she expected the invitations to be worded (with both sets of parents on host line). I’ve gotten great feedback, on my post, and am going to go with “son of XYZ” under FI’s name. My parents deserve the honor of hosting, and this way we still acknowledge groom’s parents as who they are at the party: parents of the groom, not hosts. I have a feeling that my FMIL may be extremely upset, but I’m coming around to just giving all parents the recognition they deserve!

Post # 5
858 posts
Busy bee

In tradition it is the Bride’s Parents technically anyways… and if people are going to get offended about whose name is on a invite?

Post # 6
339 posts
Helper bee

SO that you dont offend anyone, I would do:

Mr. and Mrs ABC cordially invites you to the marraige uniting thier daughter DEF to HIJ son of LMN.

That way its clear your parents are hosting and you are also acknowledging his parents.

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