- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Well it might be since after we arrive in Iowa we won’t have internet where we’re staying. I’m sure she’ll give me many more REASONS to vent between now and then, I just might not have the opportunity.
Anyway, now what, you ask?? Well, my mom just heard the “news” that there is no smoking allowed at the house we’ve rented out. (duh! what does she think this is, 1970?)
She is having a cow, pretty much. Because it’s going to be cold and she’ll have to smoke outside. And she’s small and not well insulated. I told her there’s a fire pit outside and to bring a coat! WTF.
Okay the deal is, Fiance and I are SMOKERS!!! But we deal! God. We have kids! We have friends who are almost 90% non-smokers! We live in 2011 where ya can’t smoke ANYWHERE so we deal and it’s just rude anyway. I never smoke in the presence of others unless they are smokers or the expressly indicate that it’s okay with them if I do.
My SIL is a hardcore smoker but she is having no problem with this rule. She is bringing an electronic cigarette thingy along actually.
My mom started arguing with me about this hours ago and will not stop! (Through texting)… I just kept repeating to her “NO SMOKING in the house, Mom” and she kept saying things like “well put me in a room by myself and I will open a window” or “bring some Febreeze”!!
Aside from the obvious reasons why, I reminded her that my BF’s daughter (age 19) who will be staying with us is severely asthmatic. I mean, so asthmatic that she once was hospitalized after going to her grandparent’s house, HOURS after they’d had some sort of carpet treatment for stains and whatnot. HOURS later and the fumes landed her in the hospital for 2 days!
SO yeah, even if there wasn’t a “policy” isn’t that reason enough??? I have known this girl all my life and I have never smoked around her, wouldn’t dream of it. Mom’s answer is “She is not a CHILD anymore.”
And for the room comment… um, NO. There is ONE room there that is the only one that only contains ONE bed. And Fiance and I get that room!! We are the wedding couple, we are not having a honeymoon or even a “mini moon” or even a night in a hotel after the wedding, so no way in hell are we giving up the only private sleeping arrangements in the house!! All the other rooms have multiple beds.
And did I mention, again, that my mom is not paying a penny? Okay I take that back. Since my last rant she DID offer to buy dress socks for my sons and she paid for my eldest’s son’s haircut ($15).
But we are paying for all this ourselves, including the house rental for a week. Including charges for extra guests! My mom could certainly afford to get a hotel on her own and smoke all she wants in her hotel room (and deal with getting caught on her own)… not like it’s going to break her!! And I am very very close to telling her that. And I know she’s going to bring this up again when she gets there, which thankfully isn’t until Wednesday! Wish it were FRIDAY.
I am just amazed at how obnoxious she can be. She tells me at the end of this convo that I am “up too late” and “too stressed” and to “go to bed”. Um, I was stressed but she sure as hell doesn’t help!
Okay vent over.