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Can you get your pastor to participate in your ceremony somehow? That way, you can still get the blessing and participation of both.
I don't really like the idea of you being singled out during the Sunday service - if that's not a common practice for your congregation.
On a personal note, if you haven't already, you may want to consider how you'll be feeling the morning after the wedding... I know I wouldn't want to worry about making sure I was at church - I'd want to enjoy a lazy morning with DH in bed!!!
I think asking for a blessing on Sunday is a great idea. I'm sure the congregation would be happy to join in a blessing of your new marriage. I know I would be.
I've never seen a wedding blessing, but I have seen blessings given to someone who was considering becoming a nun, for all mothers on mothers day (where they are all asked to stand and the priest leads us in a prayer), people graduating from high school or college, military, etc. I'm Catholic and usually when that sort of thing is done, they do it right before the end of mass.
I guess as far as being singled out goes; I pictured it more as the same way they do a baptism in church. Yes you are singled out; but most people who are there in attendance are happy to be a part of it & witness it.... I have thought of having our preacher do a reading or something at our ceremony. Just wanted to get some perspective on this idea. Thanks!
@ Jaqi: that is exactly the way i was picturing it. Something just short and sweet that our congragation can be a small part of as well! Thank you!
I think having a blessing the next day is a wonderful idea! I really like the idea of including your church in some way. It soudns like it is small congregation and I am sure they would be exctied to celebrate with you in that way.
I think having him do a reading is a great idea, as is asking for a blessing from your church. FI and I are doing a convalidation in the Catholic church and it's basically a blessing when everyone else is gone, either after mass or before.
It is a very small congregation. Maybe 50 people max on Sunday Mornings. I hope no one would be opposed to it. But that's why I wanted to get a few more opinions!
@DemoDreamer: are you close to your congregation and/or are most going to be attending the wedding? Having never been part of a small congregation, I really don't have perspective on this, but I'd think you are all very close, I'd be a little sad if I wasn't invited to the wedding (if I thought I was close to you). But, of course, would still be congratulatory.
Another idea would be for your to have a "Prayer of Blessing" as part of your ceremony - and have your pastor do that. However, are you wanting a blessing of your church community? or just your pastor (as a symbol of your church) involved?
Oh no, I don't think anyone would feel opposed to it. Since it's a small congregation and they know you, it would be a nice special touch to the service.
Our congregation is pretty close. about 1/2 of it actually is family. So a lot will be in attendance at the wedding. I guess I was thinking more of a Blessing from our whole congregation led by our pastor. I hadn't really thought of how it would happen though...
@DemoDreamer: I think incorporating your pastor into the ceremony would be a beautiful way to intertwine the two church backgrounds.... you could also do a blessing by your congregation (assuming you are inviting them to the wedding) as part of your ceremony. There's no reason you have to separate the two, just because you aren't in the physical building.
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So I'm sure others have delt with this before; but I just can't seem to find any answers. So I'm turning to you bees! FI and I attend different churches (My church is "United Methodist" his is "Church of Christ". I attend regularly he does not. We have however chosen to hold our Ceremony at FI church basically because of size. My church will not hold the number of guests we are expecting. It is a small village church; appose to FI church that is much larger and in a larger town. I however would love to be able to include my church somehow in our marriage. Is it okay for us to hold our Ceremony in FI church on Saturday & then Sunday during regular service ask the preacher of My church to "Bless our Marriage." I'm not sure of what this would include or how it would go. I'm Not wanting to re do our vows or exchange rings again; I'm just basically wanting to ask that he blesses us and the marriage that we have vowed to cherish.? Any thoughts on this idea? Have you ever seen it done? How would this work. My church is important to me. I hate that the only reason we can not hold our wedding there is because of size. But I do love FI church as well. What do you think Bees?