(Closed) One Marriage… Two Churches? Blessing of Marriage? Please Help

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

Can you get your pastor to participate in your ceremony somehow?  That way, you can still get the blessing and participation of both.

I don’t really like the idea of you being singled out during the Sunday service – if that’s not a common practice for your congregation.  

On a personal note, if you haven’t already, you may want to consider how you’ll be feeling the morning after the wedding… I know I wouldn’t want to worry about making sure I was at church  – I’d want to enjoy a lazy morning with DH in bed!!!

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I think asking for a blessing on Sunday is a great idea. I’m sure the congregation would be happy to join in a blessing of your new marriage. I know I would be.

I’ve never seen a wedding blessing, but I have seen blessings given to someone who was considering becoming a nun, for all mothers on mothers day (where they are all asked to stand and the priest leads us in a prayer), people graduating from high school or college, military, etc. I’m Catholic and usually when that sort of thing is done, they do it right before the end of mass.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think having a blessing the next day is a wonderful idea! I really like the idea of including your church in some way. It soudns like it is small congregation and I am sure they would be exctied to celebrate with you in that way.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think having him do a reading is a great idea, as is asking for a blessing from your church. FI and I are doing a convalidation in the Catholic church and it’s basically a blessing when everyone else is gone, either after mass or before.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

@DemoDreamer: are you close to your congregation and/or are most going to be attending the wedding?  Having never been part of a small congregation, I really don’t have perspective on this, but I’d think you are all very close, I’d be a little sad if I wasn’t invited to the wedding (if I thought I was close to you).  But, of course, would still be congratulatory.

Another idea would be for your to have a “Prayer of Blessing” as part of your ceremony – and have your pastor do that.  However, are you wanting a blessing of your church community?  or just your pastor (as a symbol of your church) involved?

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Oh no, I don’t think anyone would feel opposed to it. Since it’s a small congregation and they know you, it would be a nice special touch to the service.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@DemoDreamer: I think incorporating your pastor into the ceremony would be a beautiful way to intertwine the two church backgrounds…. you could also do a blessing by your congregation (assuming you are inviting them to the wedding) as part of your ceremony.  There’s no reason you have to separate the two, just because you aren’t in the physical building.

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