Post # 1
Hello ladies… I’ve been reading your comments for the last hours and I’m impressed with how supportive you are to each other, it’s a great community!
Guess I need a bit of that support since I’m currently in a LDR, it’s been this way for a year since we graduated from grad school (where we met). I’m not American and I’m living in my country, he’s American living over there… traveling internationally is expensive and a pain, we get to see each other only once a month or two 🙁 We have been dating for almost 2 years and 4 months now.
My BF is not the expressive romantic type I guess (I’m from Latin America so I guess it might be also cultural) so he doesn’t share a lot about his feelings or plans, but last time we saw each other he told me he wanted us to look at rings “to get a sense of what I like”. He suggested it himself and out of the blue. We went and it was a lot of fun and I was thrilled cause we liked the same ones, but in the end he said that “he’s gonna start saving to buy one” and I was like uh? I told him that I can’t wait much more longer in this situation and that I need to know what the plans are… and he said it will happen in 2010 but he won’t tell me more because he doesn’t want to ruin the surprise. Anyway didn’t know whether to feel happy that it will be this year or dissapointed that it might not be until December.
I have to confess that since he took me ring shoppig I have been obsessing even more with wedding stuff (my girlfriends haven’t helped cause they spend all of our time together talking about what the color of their bridemaids dresses are going to be, etc.)… so I might ask you guys many questions about wedding planning way ahead of time!
I’d also like to know if there’s someone else waiting AND in a LDR, how are you girls handling it?
Post # 3
Welcome to the hive!! I was only in an LDR for a few months, so I’m not of much help there. 🙂 We do have an LDR board though! I am sure you are even more excited than the average waiting girl since you have a lot more to look forward to — moving to a new country to be with your future husband! Don’t feel bad about being wedding-obsessed, and just come here when you need a fix. 😉 That ring will be on your finger before you know it! (so jealous that you got to go shopping with your future FI, btw!)
Post # 4
I went to college in Texas and he went to college in California, luckily we were from the same home town in Texas so school holidays saved us some “visit each other $”. We did that for 4 years; now we both live in California and will be getting married in May!
Post # 5
Welcome! I would definitely check out the LDR board as well as the waiting board, as far as I can tell those ladies are just as sweet and supportive! Ill be sure to add you to the waiting list on Monday!!
Post # 7
Welcome to the hive! My fiance and I were apart for the first four years we were dating. Not nearly as far apart as you, but as I am sure you understand, apart is apart.
I know waiting is hard and it’s even harder when you don’t get to see him as much as you like, but I promise that once it happens, it will be worth the wait!
Post # 8
The first two years of our relationship we were living in different towns. It is hard, I know. But because when we were together I felt a constant sence of pressure to make the absolute most of our time I think it was a stresser for the boyfriend. Yours might feel that as well.
Good luch and I hope that ring comes sooner rather that later
Post # 9
Thanks girls! Looking forward to meeting you all.
@ littlemissmango: Yes it was great to go ring shopping with him. I followed an advice from a friend and told him some months ago that the boyfriend of one of my girlfriends did it, and that she was sooo happy with the ring haha. Apparently he was listening 🙂 Guessing you didn’t go with your FI, hope you loved the ring anyway!
Post # 10
I’m new to the hive and already I love the waiting bees.
I’ve been in a relationship for 4yrs and I’ve been told after my beau graduates in December 2010 (please cross your fingers), the ring will follow soon. It’s getting harder as I cater, sing in, and am actually in weddings for our friends and family. When will it be MY TURN?
I am 2yrs older than my beau, but I’ll be 27 by the time he graduates and I have no kids either. I had a goal for myself to be married and done with having kids no later than 32. *sigh*
I guess I’m having mixed feelings right now. I know good things come to those who wait, but I don’t’ know how PATIENT I will be for much longer.
Any advise or words of wisdom? I’m always advising others, but when it comes to matters of the heart, I think we all can be blind at times.
Post # 11
How exciting, to look at rings! It’s great that he did that with you. It sounds like he really wants to get you exactly what you will love, and if he doesn’t quite have the cash saved, you might have to wait just a bit, but it is better to wait a bit then get a ring you won’t be excited to wear in a few years!
Even though it can make you antsy to wait, it is also exciting! You will never have this exciting time again, so try to enjoy it!
Post # 12
Welcome cherryblossom! I think you’re really going to like it here. You’re right that everyone here is just so supportive.
Post # 13
Welcom to the Hive chica.