One newspaper article, so many etiquette issues.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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759 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That’s a little ridiculous. It’s almost like an engagement party…but not. And not appropriate, IMO. They don’t even have a date set?? I’ve seen some pre-wedding events that get out of control (2 each of engagement parties, lingerie showers, bridal showers, jack and jill showers…how many opportunities do you need to ask for sh*t??) but this seems outright rude to me. I would definitely not attend.

That being said, in my area couples almost ALWAYS include registry info with their invites. Maybe not right ON them, but you definitely get the info with the invite. I don’t find that rude, but I’m a little iffy on asking for cash outright. Even if you have a massive registry, a lot of people will still choose to give cash. I don’t get why people insist they HAVE to tell people on the invitations they want cash, as if no one ever gives cash at weddings unless they’re told o.0

Post # 4
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9092 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Soooo many issues here. 

1) this is almost like an engagement party, which typically is not a real gift giving party. 

2) if you’re going to host a party where the main intent is to provide gifts to someone it should never be hosted by an immediate family member. 

3) you should never invite people that will not be invited to the wedding itself to any pre-wedding event ESPECIALLY a gift giving party. 

Unless I was extremely close with these people I would decline. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@BabyCarat:  Did you see the article in the Globe and Mail? http://m.theglobeandmail.com/life/the-hot-button/brides-reject-wedding-guests-gift-basket-feud-goes-viral/article12703044/?service=mobile

They seem to be posting a lot about gift ettiquette lately. In this case two brides informed the guest that their gifts were not good enough. *sigh* I think that so long as you get the person a card then that should be enough. Weddings are absolutely not fundraisers.

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