Post # 1
So one of my bridesmaids called me to tell me she didn’t want to be in my wedding 2 months before the actual wedding. She already paid for half of her dress. Her excuse for dropping out was because she claims 2 out 10 of my bridemaids don’t like her and she doesn’t know anyone else in the wedding but me…it sounds like BS to me and I think it’s very selfish of her because I extended the deadline for paying for the dresses just for her. Am I wrong to no longer consider her my friend?
Post # 3
That’s crazy. I was a BM in a wedding last weekend, and I had never even met any members of the wedding party or families or ANYBODY, except the bride and groom. But because I care about the bride, I put any insecurities about not knowing anyone at the wedding aside and focused on being a good BM and friend.
She’s acting selfish. That is a stupid excuse and I don’t think if she really cared about you as a friend, she would be acting like that.
Post # 4
Unless she is very shy or has social anxiety, I would wonder if there is something else going on. I was in a wedding where I didn’t know any of the other girls (and one was actually pretty mean to everyone), but I just sucked it up to support my friend.
Before you write off your friend, I would suggest approaching her with kindness/compassion and letting her know that you’re concerned that there might be something else going on with her. Let her know you want to be there for her if that’s the case.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
Ugh, I’m really sorry, hun 🙁
I had a BM drop out of our wedding a WEEK before, so I really feel you. It totally sucks, but my best advice is to just move on. If she were a good friend, she would have stuck it out, social awkwardness or not.
Post # 6
Two of my bm dropped out the day before my wedding. AHHH… I know. One was sick and the other had an “car accident.” To make it even worse, they both let me know via text! WTF! The one that was sick apologized while the other one, I have not spoke to since the wedding. She didn’t have the decency to call me, so I we are no longer friends. It’s sad but whatever! I had 6 bm and 8 gm. We ended up have two of the gm walk down with 2 bm’s each. It was fine. I got over it. (It still pisses me off but my wedding day turned out great.)