(Closed) One of my bridesmaids dropped out!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

That’s crazy.  I was a BM in a wedding last weekend, and I had never even met any members of the wedding party or families or ANYBODY, except the bride and groom.  But because I care about the bride, I put any insecurities about not knowing anyone at the wedding aside and focused on being a good BM and friend.

She’s acting selfish.  That is a stupid excuse and I don’t think if she really cared about you as a friend, she would be acting like that.

Post # 4
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695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Unless she is very shy or has social anxiety, I would wonder if there is something else going on. I was in a wedding where I didn’t know any of the other girls (and one was actually pretty mean to everyone), but I just sucked it up to support my friend.

Before you write off your friend, I would suggest approaching her with kindness/compassion and letting her know that you’re concerned that there might be something else going on with her. Let her know you want to be there for her if that’s the case.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 5
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Ugh, I’m really sorry, hun 🙁

I had a BM drop out of our wedding a WEEK before, so I really feel you. It totally sucks, but my best advice is to just move on. If she were a good friend, she would have stuck it out, social awkwardness or not.

Post # 6
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3872 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Two of my bm dropped out the day before my wedding.  AHHH… I know.  One was sick and the other had an “car accident.”  To make it even worse, they both let me know via text!  WTF!  The one that was sick apologized while the other one, I have not spoke to since the wedding.  She didn’t have the decency to call me, so I we are no longer friends.  It’s sad but whatever! I had 6 bm and 8 gm.  We ended up have two of the gm walk down with 2 bm’s each.  It was fine. I got over it.  (It still pisses me off but my wedding day turned out great.)

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