Post # 1
So I woke up this morning with a call from one of my MOH telling me she is pregnant and due almost 2 weeks before my wedding! I just dont know what to do! She still thinks she would be in the wedding if she has the baby before the day and I told her that if anything my mother could make her dress within 3 day but I just know she wont be able to do it. I am in so much shock because when I got engaged and trying to pick a date she joked around about not waiting too long because what if she got knocked up before it. We never thought it would really happen! She was the last of all my friends who I thought would ever get pregnant!
I just had to vent because I am in shock and cannot tell anyone of our friends yet cause she wants to wait. AGHHH!!
Post # 3
That’s so cool! Even if she has the baby a MONTH before your wedding, she’ll still need a semi maternity dress so buy a big one. Or make it big. My SIl wore maternity pants for like, 4 months after her babies. If she wants to be in tne wedding, don’t push her away. If anything, her mom will probably have to come and help out with the baby and she’ll have to duck out to pump or feed the baby or something, but it’s not a major deal. when DH’s cousin got married, two of her bridesmaids had teeny tiny little babies (one was definitely less than a month and my SIl was MOH and had a 2 month old) and they were both breastfeeding them. Definitely didn’t crimp any plans! And if she backs out last minute (a big possibility, keep it in mind) then you just have an uneven #….
Post # 4
i have to say that I was in your position, and I wish I handled the situation differently. My cousin got pregnant and was due a month after my wedding. So, she was all excited, and I basically told her that she could step down if she wanted. I don’t think she was all that happy with me telling her that. And I totally regret saying that to her. She did step down only for me to ask someone else to take her place, and 2 weeks after that, she lost the baby. So it was definitely a horrible situation. We ended up asking her to be in the wedding again, and she happily accepted, but I shouldn’t have nudged her to step down to begin with. You can’t ask people to put their entire lives on hold b/c they’re in your wedding unfortunately. This is definitely a tough situation, but be prepared to be in limbo for her. She wants to be there for you to stand up next to you, but she also can’t put her life on hold to do that.
Post # 5
It sounds like you have another MOH… so if your other MOH ends up being in labor or otherwise unable to participate in the wedding, maybe MOH #2 can just fill in for her? One of my friends got married last summer, and her sister (also one of her MOH’s) ended up giving birth literally 2 days before the wedding! The sister still participated in the ceremony, and she stayed for the early part of the reception… but her role in the wedding was definitely reduced, since she had a 2 day old infant that she needed to get back to!